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14 Reasons to Celebrate Your Singleness This Valentine’s Day

February 13, 2016147 CommentsMandy Hale

Valentine’s Day is upon us, and few things send single women running for the Ben & Jerry’s faster than the thought of spending another February 14th alone. From the obnoxious singling gorillas in silk boxers (I mean, c’mon…what self-respecting man (or ape) still wears silk boxers?!?) that assault our ears at Walgreens to the obnoxious “I love my hubby soooooooo much!” posts that wage war on our Facebook feeds…let’s face it: Valentine’s Day is not … » Read More

Dash of Sass: ENOUGH

December 26, 201545 CommentsMandy Hale

“Why wasn’t I enough for him?”
I can’t tell you how many times that was the cry of my heart…all within the bounds of one relationship…because I chose for years to stand there waiting for someone to look at me and actually SEE me. To love me. To treat me like I was ENOUGH. When really, he was the one who was lacking. Lacking in depth. Lacking in character. Lacking in honesty. Lacking in integrity. I … » Read More

Dash of Sass: God’s Plan Vs. Our Plan

May 7, 201534 CommentsMandy Hale

How many times do we get angry and upset with God, thinking He has forgotten us or is ignoring us or isn’t answering our prayer? Only to later look back and see how detrimental it would have been to us had He brought us the thing we were begging for and thought we couldn’t live without? We’re stuck down here in the details of everyday life, but God sees all. He sees the big picture. … » Read More

Not Settling for Less Than Someday

January 9, 201554 CommentsMandy Hale

Those of you who follow my personal Twitter page know that my email inbox has long been a thing of abject horror and dread for me, based on my inability to properly keep up with it (and also my desperate need for a personal assistant who will work for smiles.) Well, last night, with the help of Pandora and my hilarious Twitter friends cheering me on, I FINALLY dove headfirst into my inbox and managed … » Read More

Dash of Sass: Why You Haven’t Found What You’re Looking For

October 28, 201441 CommentsMandy Hale

Sometimes we get mad and frustrated when we don’t find what we’re looking for. Or sometimes we find what we’re looking for but it’s not looking for us. But what we can’t see at the time is that the things that we DON’T find are the things that were never meant for us anyway. Pause a moment and consider the fact that maybe you haven’t found that dream job yet because God knows there’s a … » Read More

Dash of Sass: Why a Bad Relationship Can Be a Blessing

August 29, 201421 CommentsMandy Hale

If you’ve been single for any amount of time, you’ve been in at least a few less-than-ideal relationships (that’s my polite way of saying horrible relationships) and the temptation can be to grow weary and frustrated and even disillusioned when true love seems to very elusive. However, dear friends, there is no better way to really figure out what you’re looking for from life and especially from love than by experiencing what you don’t. The … » Read More

A Lady Never…

March 19, 201461 CommentsMandy Hale

In honor of the release of my brand new book, I’ve Never Been to Vegas but My Luggage Has, I thought I’d put together a list of the Top Ten Things That a Lady Never Does, inspired by the book. So read, share, enjoy…and feel free to add your own thoughts about what a lady does (or doesn’t do) in the comments below! And also grab your copy of the book now anywhere books are … » Read More

We Are All…The Single Woman

September 4, 201328 CommentsMandy Hale

The following is an excerpt from my book The Single Woman: Life, Love, & a Dash of Sass:

Instead of “single & fabulous,” the life of a single woman in her late 20’s and beyond is all too often labeled “single & desperate.” Instead of viewed as a choice, “single” seems to denote a lack of options. Everyone seems to want to meddle in the life of the woman who refuses to settle; setting her up on … » Read More

An Open Letter to Single Women, From an Anonymous Single Man

March 10, 201310 CommentsMandy Hale

I am so excited to be able to share the below letter with you, my precious readers. I know single life can often be confusing and frustrating, leaving us frequently shaking our heads and wondering “What are guys THINKING?!” Well, here’s a peek into the heart of a single man. I’m not going to reveal the identity of the man who wrote this letter to you, but I will just encourage you by … » Read More

Dash of Sass: The Case for NOT Settling

March 6, 20131 CommentMandy Hale

Quote of the Day: Men trust God by risking rejection. Women trust God by waiting. ~Carolyn McCulley The Single Woman Says: It can be really, really easy to be tempted to settle once you hit a certain age and the pickings start to look slimmer than ever. As single women, the news shows are constantly shouting warnings at us: “You’re past your child-bearing years!” and … » Read More