Dash of Sass: Why a Bad Relationship Can Be a Blessing


If you’ve been single for any amount of time, you’ve been in at least a few less-than-ideal relationships (that’s my polite way of saying horrible relationships) and the temptation can be to grow weary and frustrated and even disillusioned when true love seems to very elusive. However, dear friends, there is no better way to really figure out what you’re looking for from life and especially from love than by experiencing what you don’t. The big beautiful blessing of a bad relationship is that it teaches you what you don’t want, won’t accept, or won’t ever again settle for. So be grateful for it all, because every sentence is a vital part of your story. And every wrong person pushes you one step closer to the right one.

21 Responses to “ Dash of Sass: Why a Bad Relationship Can Be a Blessing ”

  1. Danielle
    August 29, 2014

    I appreciate soooo much your books, blog, posts. It’s great to know we’re not alone & that the way we feel while we wait is “normal”.

  2. lerato
    August 29, 2014

    As a divorcee n braking up with my youngest baby dady I seem to fall for players n cheaters just out of desperation n being lonely because after my divorce I stayed 2 years away from men n my baby dady came along n I thought he is good only 2 find he is still looking elsewhere so now I don’t know bcs I’m not choosey as in employed or not and that kills me n guys play me in return

  3. esther jedidjah
    August 29, 2014

    Enlightening and encouraging!thanks for this piece!

  4. August 29, 2014

    This is so very true. What you experience in life, good or bad, it ones straight to your heart. We all have feelings. Love this post!

  5. michelle ousley
    August 29, 2014

    I totally agree! I always sayif nothing else I’ve learned a lot and def know all the things I will never tolerate again…because I’m worth it!!!!

  6. Myra
    August 30, 2014

    Thank you. Your book has inspired and encouraged me in so any ways. I pass on you message to many of my single girl friends daily.

  7. robyn
    August 30, 2014

    I have said the same thing! I finally got out of my marriage with a narcissistic man who made me realize how much I sacrificed over the past 20+ years. I now know what I want and need from a relationship and I will NEVER settle again! I love myself too much.

  8. fatima vitoria d. teodocio
    August 31, 2014

    I hope so too,that is true co’z I’m so tired to love again. I want to focus my time to myself, and other wise I want him to realized that he lose the most important in his life.

  9. Lisa Maier
    August 31, 2014

    I’ve recently divorced and drove myself from FL to CA to start my new chapter and have been struggling with my emotions, looking for a job, and trying to feel comfortable in my own skin again. My head has been bogged down with worry and wondering where my old adventurous self is. But your words help me understand that god has a plan to send me to the new me and helped me to let go a little (I have a ways to go). Thank you Mandy.

  10. Liz Richter
    August 31, 2014

    Dear Mandy. Your book has changed my life. At 61 I am going through the most devastating divorce. I thought I had found the man of my dreams after being widowed at 48. My heart has been ripped out and trampled on. By the grace of God I am still standing. God is sufficient now and forever. Thank you for your inspiration. I wish I was as wise at 61 as you are in your thirties. God bless!

  11. melissa mitchell
    August 31, 2014

    I was lead by God to read your latest book. I have come out of a17 year old relationship which had pretty much been half of my life. I am at the point on my life where I kept questioning myself asking why I stayed but I believe it’s God’s plan now. I am truly happy as a single woman. I have not given up on love but I’m at the point where I truly want to be single. Your book I’ve never been to Vegas but my luggage has. Had renewed my faith and Spirit. And for that I am eternally grateful . Thank you for being a Beacon of hope for us women. Thank you for your encouraging words. I pay that God continues to bless you and continue the good work he had began in you. Again thank you

  12. Julie
    September 29, 2014

    You are spot on with your words! Amazing! You are simply a gift from God…especially for those of us going thru…

  13. LeyLey
    October 10, 2014

    Amen to that….. there is always something to be grateful for =)

  14. Camille Wesley
    October 12, 2014

    HI, I recently went to the WTAL 2014 conference and I saw you at GirlTalk. I was very intrigued by the person behind “The Single Woman” books. I first saw your book at Barnes & Noble. Well, I went to your website and I was really interested in the “Houdini” video. It was very interesting, I am JUst now 43 Years Old. 10/12 birthday!. Yeah. Unfortunately, I met this guy who came on very suddenly and I so thought it was God but just as quickly as he came…he was gone! I really felt a little jaded because it was my birthday weekend. He wanted the engagement ring back so, I gave it to him. I was very angry at another failed relationship but the prayer I prayed this morning was, “God, so me what I needed to learn in this experience”. Speak to my heart today and Lord let me hear your clearly. Amen. I will continue to follow your blog, I have found it to be very helpful, Thanks.

    • Mandy Hale
      October 23, 2014

      Thank you, Camille! So happy to “meet” you! 🙂

  15. Yolanda
    October 19, 2014

    I totally agree, my previous bad relationship has infact been a blessing in disguise,for one it has brought me closer to God,and taught me self love ,its been an on going road to self-discovery now! 🙂

  16. Sam Maphumulo
    October 23, 2014

    Im starting to be hopless, but Im still young, so I have faith that I will see the lessons learnt from each bad relationship one day.

  17. October 25, 2014

    At 23 ive been In and out of bad relationships. I appreciate ur blog its encouraging especially when I feel like im cursed to be single forever. Mainly because im not willing to compromise. however it has brought me more lonely days than ever. I live wth it and remind myself each day how special I am. its not easy but its worth it. . This Is my anthem to those that always wonder m ask why I cant keep a man. This is my answer “im capable of getting man im just incapable of making “what looks like its not working” Work.

  18. Paulette
    October 26, 2014

    So true , sometimes it takes a bad relationship to show you what you really need .

  19. Rachel
    December 23, 2014

    Hello! I am 25 and single. Your blog has been quite an encouragement to me. Lately I’ve been struggling majorly to understand why I’m single and if I will ever have to find “the one.” I’ve waded through several bad relationships but I’d have to agree that I learned much from those. Thanks for the encouragement!

  20. Dawn
    December 28, 2014

    Still in love with my fisrt.cant seem to get him out of my head and its been26years. I thimk about all the time .i wana call him and see how he is doing but im afraid what should i do?

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