14 Reasons to Celebrate Your Singleness This Valentine’s Day
Valentine’s Day is upon us, and few things send single women running for the Ben & Jerry’s faster than the thought of spending another February 14th alone. From the obnoxious singling gorillas in silk boxers (I mean, c’mon…what self-respecting man (or ape) still wears silk boxers?!?) that assault our ears at Walgreens to the obnoxious “I love my hubby soooooooo much!” posts that wage war on our Facebook feeds…let’s face it: Valentine’s Day is not an equal opportunity holiday.
That’s why I wanted to flip the script a little bit this year and provide single ladies everywhere with a little positive motivation in case you happen to be feeling like one, is in fact, the loneliest number. If Valentine’s Day is the “Holiday of Love,” isn’t this the perfect time to love yourself a little more fiercely? To remind yourself of how strong, and spirited, and independent you are? To celebrate yourself and your life a little? So if you’re sad and mopey and struggling with the fact that another Valentine’s is dawning and you’re not yet a party of two…here are fourteen reasons why no one deserves your love more than YOU!
I love number 2 and number 14. I’ve had a Valentine for the past 2 years & was aware that neither was right for me. This year I’m celebrating being single, knowing better & doing better. Don’t have any single lady plans yet but I’m going to make it a good day. I’m working on me everyday. Thank you for being part of my journey & allowing me to share yours.
I have been enjoying being single for nearly 20 years. I can buy my own roses, Godivas and cook myself a 5 star gourmet meal. A good man is just icing on the cupcake of love. All reasons are good. Get good with just me, before I can be part of a “we” experience. Happy tines day, ladies! I also have beautiful “happy plates” that I love to dine on.
Mandisa has been a Me Love Song in every hit she has. I am over 60, tried to find a man who was committed. The words from their mouths say one thing, but their love for the worldly fallen sucks them in, never to be freed. I feel for the sick, addicted and lost every day. God is waiting for them to come to their senses. In the meantime, here I am sitting and wondering why I can’t find a Godly man? Well, your site and this opportunity to hear how others feel has given me a moment to contemplate. God may only want me for himself. That would be fine. The time I am by myself with God is the reunion that is my goal. The reunion and companionship of a man is not as important. Well readers, my best wishes to you for a God blessed Valentine’s Day. After all God loves us everyday and he will not abandon us or forsake us.
I love 11 thru 13
You forgot to mention, Because being single, doesn’t mean you are desperate 🙂
AMEN SISTER!!!! I would pick single and DRAMA FREE anyday…I love my life…my son and my dogs…I do what I want when I want…
I was asked last week what was wrong with me for me to still be single; I was cute. My martial status does not defined me. It is God’s plan not mine and I love being able to take care of Dad after Mom passed away in April.
That’s really true!
Amen Ada! Say that again girl!
This Valentines Day, instead of being quite low as not only is February 14th that day, but it’s also my ex hubby’s birthday, and the day we got engaged, I decided to reach out. Have arranged, with a friend, a Singles Valentines get together dinner tonight for men and women. There are so many kinds of love to celebrate, we intend to. I’ve been stunned at the response from men and women to this. A bring and share as we call it.
Definitely needed this right now. 😉
Yes, So did I…and I hate that question too “why are you still Single” Ugh! I’m 42, and a single mother of one. I have many things to keep me busy during the course of a day, and yes I would like someone to spend time with…BUT I don’t feel LONELY…I’m just doing Me, and Enjoying that! Like most of Us all, I WON’T Settle for any old “Warm Body” to fill a Void…That’s just an Invitation for Stress & Drama and in My Life….So Thank You…but I Will Wait for someone that God has for me, and when he’s here, I will know. (Smiles) So This Valentines Day I will be Spending it with Loved Ones, My Mother, My Daughter, and My Aunt. Happy Valentine’s Day Ladies!!!
My girlfriends and I are joining a speed dating event in Las Vegas rotary to beat the Guinness Workd record of 1000 speed daters. Should be FUN
Awesome idea…can you let me know if next year is doing one…might get a group of friends to go over…fantastic idea and can imagine so so much fun.
or can someone let me know if it was worth going to.
Yeah it should 🙂
I have to admit…I do love being single, so much more than being married…life is better!
You said it!! Nice being able to make my own decisions and not have to get permission from someone else.
Because of your posts and messages, I’m so happy and content about my singleness
O.o Wow okay
Because being single can become empowering
Thanks for the pep talk! I am a single 35-year-old about to celebrate yet another “Singles Awareness Day” (as a friend of mine once put it…who, by the way, is now happily married : )…One habit I would like to get in to is buying flowers for myself. I’ve always loved receiving flowers from someone else, and would always get my Mom flowers every Mother’s Day and birthday before she passed. Needless to say, I am definitely a “flower” person. One year, I bought some flowers in a cute pot to give to a cousin of mine during the valentine season, and for some reason I decided to keep them for myself. Every time I looked at the flowers in the pink heart-covered pot I felt better. Hence, this little act of self-love is definitely on my list of things to do just for me this season : )
p.s. Thank you for all that you do Mandy. Maybe it’s because we are the same age, but I feel like you are a kindred spirit in ways. Every time I am feeling down and out for being single for so long and I read some of what you’ve written (either on Twitter or this website or the book I downloaded), I feel better. It just puts my life more in to perspective. I am not the only one out there trying to make sense of a world where, for some reason, life didn’t quite pan out the way I thought, or hoped, it would. I can’t say I’m all that sad about being single, and often times I truly enjoy my life and the freedom I have. But you really do provide a lot of positivity for those who at times feel like somewhere, deep down, something is a little “off.” And no matter what you do, you can’t quite figure out what it is. Which can make you feel like there’s something wrong with who you are. And of course there is nothing at all wrong with you (at least not anything major enough to repel every single elidgable man on earth!)…But just knowing there are other smart, capable, independent, and good-hearted single women out there lets me know I am not alone!
I love the singles awareness day and I feel the same way. We are 35 and it feels good to read Mandy’s blog and her Facebook posts. Thanks Mandy! Kudos to you for buying flowers for yourself. I think I might do that this year. 🙂
Great post, thanks. I’ll return to this one. I had a fabulous Valentines Day a couple of years ago when I ended up watching The Graduate, which I’d always meant to getting round to see, and Julie and Julia (can’t remember which I actually saw on the day) and made a superb and healthy chocolate mouse, a mean ratatouille and a pink blancmange. Ha, ha, it was very girly and indulgent! And all super healthy.
The only Valentine’s Day I’ve ever been in a relationship for we fought while we were on holiday with my folks. I realized he was too much like my Dad! I guess I am quite like my Mum and can be controlling. On this occasion sparks flew for the wrong reasons.
This Valentine’s I’m looking forward to because my sister happens to be getting married this year. I can therefore justify treating myself to a nice piece of jewellery to go with my dress. Why shouldn’t I choose it in February?! I’m thinking gold watch. Last year I wrote a poem to a loved one on Valentine’s as well, which was a special way to mark the day. Not a Valentine, as such. Still, it’s nice to remember love is true, even if it’s not Romance.
Remember single ladies: BE INDEPENDENT…NOT CO-DEPENDENT!!!!! ; ) Enjoy Valentine’s Day with the people who will ALWAYS love you…your children or your best friend…your animals…most importantly Mr. Right (Jesus)
This Valentines Day i plan on taking myself to the movies, getting a small popcorn, a box of bunch a crunch, and a mixed icee and enjoying a romantic comedy all by myself. last year i had a valentine and it wasnt even all i expected. my ex was an example of me settling. so im back in the single pot that i had been in for the last 7 years, and i ENJOY it. Being Single is a gift, it gives you peace and the option of doing what YOU want to do. i miss being in a relationship, but im definitely enjoying my time by my lonesome….
Single n free
I am single and not happy about it but still have to celebrate….Because I don’t wanna shut my heart to happiness…..I just wish its worth the celebration…One day its gonna be over hoping I find someone who really understands me………
Another year and still single.. For valentines I’m going to buy myself a pandora bracelet and a charm of a heart with a key to it.. Symbolic that no one holds the key to my heart, only God. When the time is right he will give that key to the one who is worthy of my heart. Best part of singlehood, you get to gift yourself anything YOU WANT.
That’s a cool idea.
The year after my divorce I bought a charm bracelet w/ an engraved heart that said “And she lived happily ever after…”
I love the Pandora bracelet idea!!
Being single for me is knowing I don’t need a man.to full fill my needs ,wants,and happiness…I do have two beautiful Valentine’s my daughter’s that’s who Il spending time with…
I enjoy all your quotes and it just reinforces what i believe and how I try to help othet single women feel stronger and more liberated from the stereotypes who think less of us single woman. Love your inspiration and positive humourous wisdom.
I’m thinking about taking myself out to dinner and a drink!!! Have never done that and am 51
I’m newly single, ( widowed) I have learned that being single is so very liberating! The last few Valentines were NOT what I wanted! So this year, I am going to treat myself to dinner in my favorite restaurant! The posts here just make me determined not to settle ever again! I am worth it!
Ms lady. U have no idea what ure post mean to me. Its like u have a glimpse into my life and are my voice of reason. I look forward to seeing u in my newsfeed every morning and through out the day. U are a very very talented and insightful woman. God has definitely put u in a great position. My goal is to be better not bitter and u help me with that in ways u will never know. From the bottom of my heart…thank u!!! Keep them coming♡
because being alone is better than wishing you were…
@ Vivian, that’s sooo true…
All wonderful reasons Mandy! You’ve gotta love yourself and date yourself before you ask anyone else to. I’ve been dating myself for about a year now and it’s getting pretty serious! 😉
Love this!!! You’re hilarious! I’m starting to feel the same way thought 😉
Love this!!! One of my first single V-days and i’m quite excited 🙂
WOW! Stumbling across you on IG and then finding your blog has changed my life and my perspective on where I am on the journey called life. I am single and for the first time in my life I am enjoying every second of it. I know that God has a plan for my life that is beyond my wildest dream and until the day I meet the man he has planned for me, I will live this life everyday for me! I love my independence and learning about me and becoming the woman God made me to be. Then and only then will I be able to see and appreciate a healthy relationship! This V-day I will have off from work and will be showing myself love all day like I do every day by taking care of my whole self physically, emotionally, and spiritual. V-day is a commercialized holiday that promotes expressing “love” on one day. Why one day? I want to promote and express it everyday and that starts with self love! I will take care of my body and show how grateful I am for its amazing capabilities by feeding it nutritious healthy food instead of gorging on the ridiculous amount of candy and chocolate and exercising. Then maybe take my self to a movie. Thank you Mandy for being such an amazing messenger for God! Keep doing what you are doing! You have truly impacted my life! God Bless You!
I am more confident with myself and much happier about my singleness because of your post and blogs. I really enjoy reading and seeing what you post and look forward to the next. Cant wait to read the book to add to all this!!! Keep up the good work….
I gave birth to my sweetheart on Valentine’s Day almost 14 years ago! I love my singleness and I will buy my own candy and flowers, thank you very much!! 🙂
Because singleness is not a disease that needs to be cured. 🙂
Also- there is no marriage in heaven, so if you can’t handle singleness now, you’re never going to survive eternity. LOL 😉
I believe if you find your forever soulmate you will get to be with him in heaven also. Just saying
that’s one way to look at it
What I love about these uplifting sayings is that they count for those in happy relationships too. No male bashing…….. just true facts 🙂
3 8 9 10 11 and 13. I live by these.
St. Valentine was a bishop who gave up his life so that another might live. His legacy has nothing to do with romantic love, let alone sex. I plan to do all I can on February 14 to love as he did and as Our Lord continues to do.
true being single doesn’t mean you are alone
Well said! Very inspiring!
I realized that my time is more important then there time and I will no longer settle or give in to there words. Actions are the on,y thing I can believe in anymore. My trust is in #4
Recent widow (almost 3years.) I might treat myself to a jazz concert and buy myself some flowers. Missing my husband, but I know that God loves me unconditionally! I’m on a journey, and getting ready to enter another phase of my life! I’m excited!!!
good luck to u Regina, hope u can find the love & hapiness .God bless!
“Because before you’re ready to wear a diamond, you want to become one.” Love this so much Mandy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Happy Valentine’s Day to all the fabulous Single ladies out here!!
I remember last yr. you called it “Galentine”, i’m always up for treating myself out, I deserve it :). I don’t know what my plans are yet, though I REALLY want to go to this choc. & wine tasting, hope I won’t be working that day. Obviously, I’m single and I do miss being a “double” sometimes, but I also enjoy being alone, and I think I enjoy it way tooooo much… Lol
I love love love #6! That is so me.
Single @ age 49 not by choice but after losing spouse of 22years due to cancer in 2008. Now have decided that whether or not love ever arrives…I’m gonna THRIVE. Still journeying in faith, feeling strong having put to college 3 kids with youngest 16 & oldest 20 when he left us. Now oldest graduating in May 2014-doctor of physical therapy, middle child working as senior system analyst with Accenture engineering, youngest junior @ UIC. Celebrating V.day with another single mom friend having spa day! Note to ourselves- take care of me!
Awesome and inspiring. 🙂
I love the 14th point. It is really important to make ourselves emotionally strong and find the good in ourselves before entering in a relationship. For us to make others happy, we have to make ourselves happy and whole first.
I love all that you write, Mandy.
And to all the single ladies-
yeah i agree…lets not b pressure of finding someone in order to have a partner this valentines day..valentines day is not about having a bf or gf..its about loving all the persons around you who loves you too-parents,siblings,friends…
I am so glad to have found this site. I’m still working on myself after a bad break up almost 2 years ago. Mandy, you are a God send. I’ve never been one for celebrating Valentine’s Day but this year I think I will- by celebrating the strides I’ve made on my journey to find myself. Thanks Mandy!! xoxo
I love all of these but especially Number 14, that just resonates with me the most! I will be my own diamond =D I also know that I never feel alone with my family and friends =D
I love them all!!!! Every post validates my single state more and more 🙂
That’s wonderful!!!! <3 It really helps…
Thanks a lot Mandy!!!
Happy valentine’s Day to All The Single Ladies Out Here Stay Bessed God Has a Better Plan For You All Be There & Trust In God 🙂
God has angels already on assignment.
Thank you for this post. Being single has helped me find ME again, I am slowly learning what makes me happy again, as I was so lost in a relationship. God is the best Love
Last year I celebrated Valentines Day with s specific other two year before that I celebrated by myself and this year I will be doing the same! I have a very nice evening planned with me and the love of my life (God) its time for me to celebrate my life. I have lived for everyone else but now im living for me its time to make April smile its time to make April happy…Thanks for your encouragement!!!
My first valentine day single but was always alone ..This website is so refreshing and defining for me
10) Because your happiness, worth, and self-confidence is not dependent on your relationship status.
Love This ONE. I needed to see this today.
I will be a single woman for 2 years this June. This is my 2nd Valentine’s Day as a single woman. I am thinking about sending myself some flowers at work just to remind myself that I am deserving and worth something beautiful. Before this time in my life, I was either in a relationship, getting out of one, or getting into one. I have never taken the “getting to know myself” time that every single person should at some point in their life. I will turn 40 in May & also have no children. Even though I feel in the pit of my stomach I want to have a family of my own, I have finally come to realize if it’s going to happen, God is the one who will allow it to be. I cannot search for it, push a man into it, or hold my breath & wait for it. I need to live my life for myself & God & just be patient! Even if it means I never give birth to a beautiful baby, somehow there will be children I love as my own out there! But for now, let us single ladies love ourselves like we would love another. Give each other compliments & do what we can to boost each other up! I am a small piece of coal that will eventually turn into a diamond. I just have to go through what God has planned for me before I can truly shine!
Just reading this post from last year, it truly blessed me! Especially the last few sentences written! Can relate being 37 and haven’t been married and no kids yet and been through a lot with my share of dates and few relationships over the years. Recently loss my first love tragically few months ago, his birthday is coming up few days before Valentine’s Day, so dealing with my loss, taking one day at a time rebuilding my life, and trying to trust Him for my future thru it all! Thanks for sharing!
I’m going to Jareds and buy myself something sparkly!!!
#3 #4 are my favorite. …Thank You. ..
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I have been single for almost 13 years and I love it. I don’t need a man to complete me…and I have control of the remote, can spend my money the way I wish, eat when and what I want at any time without worrying about it.
I really appreciate all of your comments dear singles! i am so blessed i have this oppurtunity to read all of these 🙂
My favorite single Valentine’s Day was taking my children to Paris for a long weekend at the Ritz Hotel. I watched them perform cannon balls in the pool, let them order pizza from room service, took them to McDonald’s so they c old have real French french fries and the Disney Store on the champs elsysee. .since that valentine, I have shared it with someone who isn’t worthy of my time or my future so I am looking forward to having a single Valentine’s Day, again!
Since I’ve been single for a long time, I decided to buy my own diamond ring on Valentine’s Day weekend of 2009, and I love it! And I still get compliments on it, too!
I’m still in the grieving process I guess from a 2 year relationship which ended about a month ago, between Christmas & NYE! There are good and bad parts of the breakup of course but finding your site again has been a real uplifting process. At 35 I feel almost like my time has come and gone but I at least don’t feel so sad after reading your words.
This is quite beautiful…thanks. Single and will be celebrating this valentines by loving me and those less fortunate. Singleness is drama free and stress free but it comes a time when we will not be single…but that time should be the right time and not settling…wen u love yourself enough to let another love you back. That time will reach and we will be happy…but again at the right time.:-)
A friend and I are taking a day off the 13th to pamper ourselves..mani/pedi and some shopping. Valentine’s day we are going on a special date with her kids. It’s good having company to enjoy being single with. I could have easily celebrated by myself but having a friend you can share your relationship struggles with is a gift. We have the same goals and aspirations for when the right man does come along but we are not settling for anything less. I’ve been single the past 6 years and each year I grow more and more in sync with myself and the life I am building. I no longer use the phrase, “When I’m married I’ll…” I’m getting what I want now because Prince Charming my never come. 🙂
Love this blog entry!! I plan to treat myself to a massage and facial. And I love the idea of buying myself flowers. I think I’ll try that this year too! 🙂
I totally agree, great post. This Valentines Day I’m having a Happy Single Valentines pizza and movie night at my house and I invited all my fabulous single girlfriends. Only a few can make it but it will be fun, I’ve got decorations and heart shaped lollypops etc. We are going to watch the dvd ‘Valentines Day’ and celebrate all the great things about being happy and single. I read and loved your book, it really resonated with me, thanks for you words of wisdom.
thanks on this!having no special someone doesnt mean you are incomplete.being single makes you more stronger like you can go on shopping, eat in a restaurant or eat an ice cream while you are walking alone.being alone doest mean you are lonely.lets enjoy the “me” time while waiting for the person God has prepared for us.
Yes!! I like this, well said! 🙂
I finally did learn to love but was rejected my him.
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The article is nice; the comments are inspiring too! My favorites are 11, 13 & 14. I’ve been blessed!
I am a single mom 4 years out from a divorce. I have moments where I do still struggle with the unanswered questions from the divorce but most of the time I accept my singleness with contentment. I remember telling my now ex-husband during a dark time that I didn’t need him because I had God and that’s still true today. I’m focusing on me & raising my daughter by trying to be a Godly example. I love #1 because it does take bravery to be a single parent/person with grace & acceptance. I have found new things that I really enjoy that I probably wouldn’t have discovered otherwise.
Same here. 4 years this past Nov. Still have questions, but been moving on. Seems like Mandy always has an inspiration when I need one.
I have been single for 3 years now figuratively speaking. During my first year of marriage I learned that it is much to be alone by yourself than to be alone with someone, especially when it is someone who is supposed to love you! My “marriage” lasted 17.5 years. I do not regret the lessons learned, nor do I regret the fact that I am now single. My favorite quotes were #’s 3 & 5. Lord willing I will look to God not man to fill any voids in my life.
For Valentines Day this year I am taking my kids to watch a basketball game at Liberty University. Go Flames!!!
Also, my goal for this time in my life is to accomplish all that I can that I could not do when I was married. I want to live my life to the fullest and be all that God created me to be.
Yes you are right , I just decided to reward myself and order your book. I’m gonna spend Feb 14 reading it. Thank you for the encouragement, thank you for making me relize how I’m worthy even with me being single !
For the past 25+ years, my best friend (also a dynamic single lady) and I have celebrated our Valentine..Jesus. We have a fabulous meal, watch a love story and read scriptures that remind us of how loved we are. ..by Jesus. The evening always includes flowers and chocolates. I have also hosted big Single Ladies Valentine’s Day Banquets to help singles who are struggling with this issue to refocus.
Years ago, I was doing prison ministry with the incarcerated women in the Detention Center. It was right before Valentine’s Day. I told the women that Jesus was my Valentine and I had no problem believing He could send me a big heart shaped box of chocolates if He wanted to. I even went on to describe it. It would be pink with lace and pink roses. Lo and behold, on Valentine’s Day, I was at work when a courier came in and gave me a huge pink heart shaped box of chocolates, complete with lace and pink roses. The card read, “Happy Valentine’s Day! I love you, Jesus
It turned out to be from one of my single friends who had been helping me with the prison ministry that night. She thought she would help Him to bless me. Everyone wanted to know where my candy came from, so I told them. It gave me a great opportunity to tell them about Jesus’ love.
I’ll be honest….I miss the physical touch of a man in my life, but no so much that it cold be any man. Let’s face it. It’s hard to compete with Jesus.
Last Valentine’s Day, I was feeling a little mopey thinking about how I missed the physical touch. I left my office and ran into a married friend of mine. He came running over, threw his arms around me and said Jesus told him to hug me and wish me Happy Valentine’s Day.
I have a wonderful Valentine!!!!!!
What a joy to find this website. I have been married for 45 years to a beautiful Christian husband. This summer God told me he would take my husband in four years. A lot of fears of living alone for the first time make me very depressed at times. But you help make me see that I need to welcome this time instead of dreading it. I’ve given up many things I like to make others happy. I lived for my husband and my children. My kids are diamonds already. There are things I’d like to do but don’t have time. I thank God for taking over my life when I was struck down with mental illness forty years ago and God helped me find a new life in him. Jesus found me when I was lost and gave me life abundant. I need to learn now how to work the TV remote, how to use a computer and how to use a smart phone my husband just bought recently. My husband is teaching me this which is very frustrating at times. I need to learn to be more independent. God is preparing me for my future.I know he will always be with me. Thank you for shedding new light in my life. I trust God to know what is best for my life. The best is yet to come.
WOW! Never thought about any of that stuff! I never have seen myself dating or married. I have dated only 2 guys my whole life (30+) and it was very messed up both times. I don’t know if I ever want to get married. When I try to think about it I can’t see it…
I’m identified with everything, especially 11, 13, 14!!!
This is an amazing post. I recently got out of a relationship a few weeks ago and then happened to stumble upon your Facebook page and I have now subcribed to your website and just wanted to let you know how much your posts have lifted my spirits and have helped me keep my head up. Especially with Valentine’s Day right around the corner. I just wanted say thank you from the bottom of my heart. Your awesome Mandy!
Love the reasons to celebrate me. I have had several single Valentine’s Days and this year because of reasons you have mentioned I feel empowered to celebrate my independence. Thank you.
Love number 7! This list is awesome and encouraging!
Be content in this season of life. God is a jealous God and He is not ready to share you with anyone else yet. He wants you all to himself! I’m so blessed to be able to do so many things that I would not have the opportunity to do if I were married. I help lead a singles ministry, get to participate in many service projects, and devote my time to the things that only single people can do. I can go on a moment’s notice. Instead of dwelling on being single, rejoice in it. There’s no better man in my life than that of Jesus Christ! He’s the best man a girl could ever want!
ONE YEAR I BOUGHT A BEAUTIFUL BOUQUET OF INTENSELY ORANGE ROSES FOR MYSELF, MY DAUGHTER, A FRIEND AND BEST OF ALL…MY GMA GRACE!! SHARING OUR LOVE WITH THISE WE LOVED, IT WAS A GREAT GID THING:)
THIS IS MY FIRST VALENTINE’S DAY WITHOUT MY BEST FRIEND, MY ROCK! MY GMA GRACE PASSED AWAY IN SEPTEMBER DUE TO CANCER SHE DIDN’T KNOW SHE EVEN HAD. I’M STILL GOING TO BUY THOSE PRETTY FLOWERS N SHARE THEM. MY GMA GRACE WOULD WANT ME TO KEEP THE SMILES GOING. I JUST MISS HER SO MUCH…
I am 8 and 12. This list is fabulous.
This is so inspiring. Thank you!
The best reason I see is that I have more time to devote to myself and my relationship with my children. I’ve unfortunately “been there, done that.” I now realize I don’t need a man to feel better about myself. I need to wait for God’s timing. God has someone who will compliment my life not control it.
I love number 12! This is such an encouragement to women in the age of Nicholas Sparks and chick flicks!!
wow!!! I dont know how to feel about all of this. I do appriciate all of the comments. I am single .have been for 12 years . I have bought myself the roses .took my self to the movies,bought my own candy.had a good time doing so.and I am @ an age where I dont NEED a man ,but would love to have one.Ive only dated twice in that 12 years ,and for whatever reason it hasnt worked out for me.G-d cont… to remind me of Matt 6:33 seek him and his kingdom first and ALL these things will be added to me. its hard to do somedays.I am thankful for all of the encouragement from all the comments and it is true .G-d should come first ,and you DONT need a man to define you or complete you .but I believe and will cont… to believe that there is someone for everyone. G-d made us for companionship and it is diffrent with a man than it is with your g.friends or children for sure . dont want to offend anyone that is happy with just being you and alone doing so. but I love being loved ,hugged etc… Jesus is my all and all and I love him sooooo .but its just not the same .sorry 🙁
Love this!! These are so good!! I usually was a bit mopey, but a couple of years ago something came to my mind. I bought a half dozen roses from a friend’s florist shop. I asked if she would separate the roses into nice looking bouquets with three roses in each. Then I had them write a sweet note one both. Sadly I can’t remember it now, but it said something like, “I love you, I have always loved you. You are so special and precious to Me and I just wanted to let you know. Love, God” There were a few other things, but as I said I con’t remember. But I had the roses delivered to my classroom at school, and to another teacher who was single. It made her cry, and she said she was so blessed to be able to share with her kids a precious gift. It was a great feeling and we both enjoyed our roses and notes from God. This year, I am planning to get myself some chocolate-covered strawberries, and to treat myself to a nice dinner.
I started my 20’s as a soon to be new parent (and single), started my 30’s trying to decide if being married was still right for me, and as I embark on my 40’s in about a month, I am FINALLY doing what I need to do for ME! I will graduate from college this year being the FIRST person in my family to obtain a college degree! I have 2 teenage kids who have watched me struggle to find myself again and figure out how to be a student again. It has been a very tough road, but journey I believe I would not have had the courage to go on if I were still married. I believe I am a better person for doing it, and for making the decision to be single again. It’s better to show yourself and your children what true happiness is within yourself than to stay in a relationship that is not right for you just for the sake of not being alone. I get lonely at times, but I also look at what I have accomplished and will continue to accomplish on my own, and it makes me feel better. I have also surrounded myself with the right people who are very supportive of me and everything I am trying to accomplish. I don’t need a man to complete me. I complete me!
Just want to leave a note to express how much your posts on FB for the “14 Reasons to Celebrate Your Singleness” has meant to me…I loved the idea, it was different, creative, & really helped to make a world of difference for the 1st time this Valentine’s Day. It truly helped to take the edge off for the days leading up to V-Day so by the time the actual day came it wasn’t as dreadful to go through…I was able to get thru the day with more ease than ever for the 1st time and was more upbeat…So it didn’t even matter that I didn’t have anyone to celebrate with this year…I was able to rejoice and express love to others and my friends that are married…In the end it turned out to be a great day for me…I received some unexpected love in return from family & friends that touched my heart. One of my close friends even surprised me with Valentine’s Day flowers, balloon, candy, & a beautiful card that made it a perfect ending to my day! So thank you for all your inspiration & encouragement that you spread to all Singles thru your FB page, posts, books, etc. I feel like I’m in a Singless Club that I’m proud to be in during this time in my life. Keep on doing what your doing and hope you continue the Valentine’s Day theme next year! GOD’s continual Blessings to you!
I love all of them. When the right time comes God will send the right me for you.
All of the 14 Reasons do it for me. God is designing the right partner for me and I know his going to treat me the way I want to be treated.
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I love this! It’s perfect and I did need to be reminded of it all!!
I celebrate myself all the time with dinner, movies, shopping, bi weekly manicures, and I love alone time!
Thank you for sharing these again! I have been dreading Valentine’s Day since New Year’s Day if not before and these little reminders have really made me feel better. I have been struggling for over a year now and have found so much comfort and hope in your blog posts and books. Thank you and God bless!
After reading your post, I still regret I feel scared n ashamed to be out n about on Valentine’s Day. It’s a Saturday for Valentine’s Day here but have to attend a course on that day n probably see a lot of couples around me when I take thr train. Xxx
Love 3 and 4. The rest no use for. Same for a relationship. ♥
No.11 is my reason !!
I would like to see a follow-up post on creative ways singles can celebrate Valentine’s Day.
I am married now but I wanted to share something I did prior to marriage for this time of the year. I believe love is a great reason to celebrate so I would always do something special for my mama and sister and then make plans with a special girlfriends to go out to a movie or have a girls night etc. I really never let the day get me down bc I filled my life with love in other forms. Ironically my husband and I don’t care much about Valentines!! LOL! Happy V-Day to all you lovely ladies 🙂
These are awesome!
Love all the 14 reasons….if I get Mopey I hang out with my girlfriends.
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I have enjoyed following you for the past two years. I got out of a bad engagement on NYE ’13. I truly loved my fiancee but I learned quickly we were not meant to be. I tried for almost two years to make us work. Always taking the sidelines to try to be better, accepting that in reality I deserved more, he was not good enough for me – he needed less but I still fought for us. It took us breaking up for me to find my backbone again. I made him move out (I found the house after all, I had someone who could move in to help with the rent, plus I was the one who dealt with the landlord – note ladies when you 90% of all that – there is a sign run)! I have now been single two years and boy have they been hard. I live in the Northern VA area, but I’m from the south. Guys are different here – I’ve tried all the sites, paid and free they are the same. I’ve tried blind dates. Most of my friends are in relationships, but I have a core who are not. I see my friends in both good and bad marriages and your blog/stories – even these simple post-its always enlighten my day. My guy has not come yet, but that is ok. Is it hard – YES, do I want it YES. But with your friendly help I have learned it’s ok to be single. Because it truly means I am not settling. I’m allowing myself to try, to be vulnerable, to put myself out there – but I’m not loosing who I am. Yes it sucks when you have a great few dates and the guy vanishes, or you talk for three hours on the phone about all sorts of things and don’t hear back. But while it hurts now – your blog reminds me that these men do not have a place in my life – I deserve more. As long as I love myself and keep being me – One day God will provide that one! Keep blogging and if you ever become the “Non-Single Woman” I hope you continue to inspire women all over with your positive outlook, your charming nature, and most of all your honesty and support of all of us women!
Becuz being single is just so nice, i’m. Ok being with just me…
Loved this…. Right up until the point it became a advert for a dating app!
And Mandy, THIS took a LOT of love to post this for us single women this Valentine’s Day. There are several here, though, that I think subtly tend to perpetuate our sadness or regret about not being part of a “party of two” — but that’s not just here, it is all over. At this stage I sometimes struggle with (and satan surely helps in the thought life at times), what if there isn’t a “we”?…what if there is not to be a “diamond”?…what if I find myself being content with being a party of one (is there something WRONG with that???). And this morning the Lord gave me a Facebook post to place that helped to ease my concern over that. He said that “You (we) are a beautiful ONE because He is THE Beautiful One” and that is really all it needs to be. If He does ordain a relationship for any of us…then, like that one cool poster says, it is just the icing on the cake (but even that one tends to suggest that we are somehow lacking – the icing – if we do not have a partner). But if He doesn’t, then we are still a WHOLE cake…icing and all (and good icing to boot ( : Thank you, Mandy (and I pray that you aren’t offended by my comment). I love receiving these and am also, through my own single experience, becoming more and more sensitive to us single women’s hearts and needs. In His Love, Terri
Because my worth and purpose is far greater than just a Mrs. Also His timing is always right.
Love this! I am so glad I read this post today, it coincided so perfectly with the chapter of your new book I am on. I recently started dating a guy I really like, but only a month and a half in, I am finding myself tipping precariously close to acting like his girlfriend before I actually am. I know intellectually this only results in heartache, but it can be difficult for me to remain logical at times. Today I read this post and your chapter on Advent and I feel rejuvenated and balanced. Because, while I may like this guy…I am still single! I am still fabulous and fierce and on my own. And while part of me wants to skip ahead and see if this guy and I work out, I am still in my season of waiting. I have always had a hard time being patient, so I desperately needed your chapter on Advent and waiting to encourage me to continue on my path. I have been waiting patiently and patient-less for love for many years, so it makes no sense to stop waiting now. Relationships are organic and take time, so I thank you for the reminder. Because the truth is only time will tell if he is the right guy for me and I need to relax and trust in God that it will work itself out, one way or the other.
I always say “If you can’t find somebody worthy of being a marriage partner, you can have a collection of dating partners !” . Life is no good without a relationship . If I ever like being single so much I don’t want to be rescued from it, I’ll commit suicide ! I pay my own bills, plan my own day, chart my own path, and make my own way … and I’d still rather be married ! I’m SO ready to love ! Living life on my terms means I have to be married . I learned to love years ago . God’s REAL LATE sending me a marriage partner . I don’t have any business being single !
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