Dash of Sass: The Case for NOT Settling
Quote of the Day:
Men trust God by risking rejection. Women trust God by waiting. ~Carolyn McCulley
The Single Woman Says:
It can be really, really easy to be tempted to settle once you hit a certain age and the pickings start to look slimmer than ever. As single women, the news shows are constantly shouting warnings at us: “You’re past your child-bearing years!” and “You’d be more likely to be hit by a meteor than to find love past the age of 30” and my personal favorite, “Maybe you should stop waiting for Mr. Right and just settle for Mr. Good Enough” – all of which make a strong case for settling. But the problem with settling is this: We weren’t called to do it. In any area of our lives. God calls us to live spectacular, outstanding, powerful, victorious lives! Anything less is not a testament to His presence in and His impact on our lives. If everything we do is for the glory of God…wouldn’t it stand to reason that He would want us to live glorious lives? Part of living a glorious life is finding a glorious life partner. And part of trusting God is trusting that He has that partner already picked out for you.
There’s an interpretation of 2 Corinthians 5:5 that says this: “He puts a little of heaven in our hearts so that we’ll never settle for less.” (The Message) I like to think that God plants little reminders all around us of what it means to live an abundant life that He brings to our attention right at the moment that we’re most tempted to settle. In all honesty, and keeping it 100%, I’ll admit that over the past year or so, I had really started to wonder if all the good guys were truly gone. The exhaustion of disappointing first dates and guys with girlfriends trying repeatedly (and fruitlessly) to hit on me and looking around and seeing friends settling all around me was really getting to me. And just like He always does, God found His own unique way to remind me that all is not lost, that defeat and despair is not the end of the story, and that there very much ARE still some amazing men out there. And whether I marry one someday or stay single for the rest of my life, I am just grateful to God for putting that little bit of heaven in my heart to inspire me to hope for and believe for and reach for more.
It’s tempting to lose heart on this crazy journey of single life…believe me, I know that…but I want to encourage you today to keep the faith. Remember, Happily Ever After tends to take place on the last page. And when you hand God the pen to your life, He will write an infinitely more beautiful story than you could ever ask for or imagine.