Dash of Sass: Whatever You’re Facing Today, Tomorrow Is On Its Way

AndThenI have a dear friend going through a big heartbreak right now…and this morning she texted me “How is it possible for this to still hurt me so horribly?” And I texted her back: “It hurts because you’re human, and because you were vulnerable with someone who didn’t value your heart and THAT’S NOT ON YOU…” And you know what? It also hurts because she’s stuck in the Today of it all. The newness of it all. The immediacy of it all. It’s happening now, in this moment, the breaking of her heart and the falling of the tears and the acceptance that the person she thought she knew and loved isn’t really that person at all. But that’s Today. And it’s okay to allow yourself a Today, or even very many Todays if you need them, to work through the grief of whatever hurt or injustice or loss you are facing in your own life. But know this: Tomorrow WILL come. One day, maybe not so long from now, my sweet friend will wake up and find her smile again and reclaim all the pieces of her heart again and be ready to move forward again into all the beautiful things God has for her on the other side of letting go…

And so will you.

So in the midst of your Today today and whatever unique trials you are facing…just cling to the knowledge that Tomorrow IS out there…it’s waiting on the horizon…and it WILL arrive, perhaps sooner than you may think….and life WILL be beautiful again. (And also, happy birthday yesterday to the author of this quote featured here, L.M. Montgomery, who also happens to be one of my all-time favorite authors) 

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21 Responses to “ Dash of Sass: Whatever You’re Facing Today, Tomorrow Is On Its Way ”

  1. Robin
    December 1, 2015

    Today, I woke up in tears. Went to the bathroom at work, cried my eyes out for the 200th time this year and decided I wasn’t going to cry anymore. I AM ok. My search for articles brought me to you and I think it’s a God thing. After two excruciating breakups, one of three years and one of 6 months, I too am ready for tomorrow. You’ve inspired me Mandy, thank you. xo.

    • punky
      December 1, 2015

      I thought the pain would never subside but every morning I made it a point to listen to something inspiring and motivational…I am beautiful and strong and an overcomer! Your words have power and its a day to day even a minute to minute fight but you will get thru this!

    • saba ansari
      December 2, 2015

      It is so true… At the same exact juncture in my life… It hurts but you go on, fighting your uncertainities at every turn, while no one really understands you!

      Safe n singles seems to be such a graet option, i csn depend on me. I manage to screw up all my relationships.. Sadness.

    • Ziy
      December 2, 2015

      Fantastic. No more tears. If someone didn’t value the love you gave, than he/she is an incomplete human being. You may have felt broken inside, but the one who’s really broke is the one who hurt you.

  2. Claudia cowen
    December 1, 2015

    Thank you for your words of wisdom in the misdt of my heartbreak…

  3. Mandy
    December 1, 2015

    I appreciate so much your words of wisdom. So many struggle thru our today’s thinking relief is so far away.

  4. Christi
    December 1, 2015

    It’s still fresh to me – the agony. We had a wonderful 3 months, and not so good 2 more months. My heart physically aches. I love him, I’ve been good to him, but he doesn’t love me. My pain and tears are here for a while, and tomorrow is hard to imagine. Keep writing, Mandy. It helps to know this won’t last.

  5. Laurie
    December 1, 2015

    I am ready for my tomorrow!!!

  6. Denise
    December 1, 2015

    Thank you so much for this. It just randomly showed up in my Facebook feed just as I needed it. I know my tomorrow will come, I’m just not there yet.

  7. Brenda
    December 1, 2015

    This is true. I am glad I didn’t know how long my today would last. I felt like I was going to die. I didn’t know my heart could ache for so long. I just didn’t know. I didn’t know I could be deceived so much so blindly. I just didn’t know. One year and six months ago a man posing as my best friend walked away and I stumbled in the dark trying to figure out where I was going before I met him. What was I doing? Who was I? I’m glad to say my tomorrow has come. It took long enough. But I’m ready to accomplish my dreams again. I’m more of a skeptic these days but I’m happy again. <3 I want a heart I can trust.

  8. Nichole
    December 1, 2015

    I’m so SICK of this happening to women! Why are we always the ones to suffer? Why are we the ones that hang on, get crushed, cry all day? I vow to NEVER cry again.

  9. Henoviva
    December 1, 2015

    It really hurt, it is but i believe thst after we crY a thousand rivers, a beautiful tomorrow will come to end all misery. Moving on may cost lot of years to do but its the least that we can do to regain our self and composure.

  10. Julie
    December 1, 2015

    Am I this friend you write of?!? After several years alone I’ve spent the better part of the last year allowing myself to fall in love, and shake the fear and anxiety of abandonment and rejection. A man I thought was my better, my tomorrow, my smile regained, just broke my heart in ways I don’t think even I realized I could be broken. I’ve been broken, glued, taped, and pieced pack together in my life, but this… He was the first I many things for me, but most of all he was the first time I really desired that happy ever after they say little girls dream of. I’m neck deep in the today of it and praying for something to give.

  11. Kim
    December 2, 2015

    Exactly what I needed to hear at just the right moment.. Thank you that..

  12. Nola
    December 2, 2015

    She’s my favourite author too!

  13. Liza
    December 2, 2015

    You are a gift, Mandy. Plain and simple. Your willingness to share your trials, joys, and heart aches are a gift to us all! I thank the Lord for bringing your wisdom into my life a year ago during a very dark time. You helped give me hope that tomorrow would come and it has. God does have beautiful things planned for us and He is patient and perfect in HIS timing. I pray for your continued strength and peace as you continue to do God’s work in helping to comfort and guide those who are lost and hurting. Thank you.

  14. Jam
    December 2, 2015

    that’ she will wake up and find her smile again. will be the best day ever .. thank you so much !

  15. Amanda
    December 3, 2015

    I will be so very glad when my tomorrow comes. I’m so tired of the tears and heartache. It seems every time I think I’m ready to move on I get sucked back into the misery and heartbreak. I hate that I’m not strong enough to easily move on. For the past 8 months he was all I knew and just like that he vanished….I really need for my tomorrow to come not now; BUT RIGHT NOW!!

    • J
      December 8, 2015

      Amanda, I know it sounds cheesy but time is a great healer. It hurts a little less each day….I did 5 years of contact (as he lived 300 miles away) and now theres nothing
      …..but I just try (and its hard) to focus on friends and family…that where I feel loved…x

  16. J
    December 8, 2015

    I am so thankful for articles like this. They are my therapy. I did 5 years of not knowing and it has damaged me more than anything I have ever experiend. I am in the process of rebuilding my confidence in my own judgment, its taking time, theres no instant cure, but i am getting there. I spent all this time with a man who used the line ‘I have nothing to offer you’…yes I could of let go..he gave me the chance, but by then (after almost a year when he first said i) I was in love with him and was happy to just be his friend (or thats what I said). He lived 300 miles away, and wouldnt move but this year asked me to move there with my son. I thought at last he finally loved me and wanted to share his life with me properly…but no…he said he would be happy to share a house with me….his words. No talk of I love you, in fact he said he didnt want a proper relationship with me. He cares for me, and would anything for me….just not love me the way I deserve to be loved….i came home from his in September this year after telling him I wouldnt move away from all my family and uproot my son just for a friendship…..and its been hard…so hard. We keep in touch, but its minimal. I had thoughts of my life there with him and now its all been taken away…but one thing I know is that he didnt deserve me, and its getting better every day. Thankyou Mandy x

  17. Roxy Garcia
    June 17, 2016

    I stumbled upon your blog after searching for articles to give me some understanding on this heartbreak. I honestly believe GOD led me here and I am so glad he did. You’re inspiring in so many ways and have given me the strength to know that things will be okay. Maybe not today, but eventually. I was with a man for 5 years and engaged for one. He broke off our relationship through a text message which alone should tell you what kind of a man he was. I’m almost done reading The Single Woman and it has made me laugh, cry and smile altogether. While I may be hurting at times….it’s not an everyday thing now which is good to know. Here I thought that I couldn’t survive one day without him, and it has been a little over 6 months already. Thank you so much for putting your story out there and giving hope and strength to us women out there who oftentimes just need someone to tell us its okay to cry, but don’t let your life stop for someone who won’t love you. You’re an amazing woman. THANK YOU!!

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