The Single Woman’s Dash of Sass: Whatever Your Story Is – Tell It BOLDLY!

Quote of the Day:

“Write your story as it needs to be written. Write it honestly and tell it as best you can. I’m not sure that there are any other rules. Not ones that matter.” ~Neil Gaiman

“Don’t forget – no one else sees the world the way you do, so no one else can tell the stories that you have to tell.” ~Charles de Lint

“Sometimes a book isn’t a heartbreaking work of staggering genius. Sometimes it’s the only story you knew how to tell.”  ~Tahereh Mafi

The Single Woman Says:

So I’ve received a couple of negative reviews on my book over the past few days, and I know it’s to be expected…I mean, not everyone is going to love and adore my stories as much as I do…but I see a common thread in the less-than-stellar reviews that I want to address. And first I have to say a heartfelt THANK YOU to everyone who has taken the time to read my book and write a review, positive or negative, and while the positive reviews FAR outweigh the negative ones, I still want to touch on the common issue that the detractors seem have with my book. A few readers feel like I don’t go “deep” enough or that I haven’t had enough life experience to speak about some of the BIG issues like love and loss. Essentially, I’m a tad too “fluffy” for some people. And the truth is, by the grace of God, I haven’t experienced any MAJOR loss in my life to this point of anyone extremely close to me. So to that end, other than suffering a few heart-wrenching break-ups, I can’t really speak as an expert on loss and grief. I HAVE experienced some very traumatic events, such as being in an abusive relationship, which left me stronger, wiser, and ready and willing to share the lessons I’ve learned so others can perhaps avoid some of the heartache I have endured as a result of both bad circumstances and my own bad decisions. But the point I want to make here is this: My message may not always be intense and deep and earth-shattering, but it is REAL. And that’s enough for me. That’s the kind of story I am here to tell at this juncture in my life…something real and true and authentic about the life of a single woman…a life that looks very little like what we see mirrored on television and in books. As I’ve said before, I’m not a guru, I’m not a therapist, I’m not an expert. And I’m NOT Carrie Bradshaw, as much as I love and adore her. I have loved and I have lost. I have laughed and I have cried. I have been single and I have been in relationships. And I have known the heights of happiness and the depths of sorrow. I am one of you. Not better than, or more evolved than, or more intelligent than. Equal to. I am a single woman who some days embraces my singleness wholeheartedly and other days feels like I am painfully flawed in the area of romance. Some days I feel fierce and fabulous…other days I just feel inadequate and lonely. This IS the journey of The Single Woman – and it might not be a Shakespearean sonnet – but it is as honest as it gets. This is my story, and I tell it proudly, and along the way, if I give a few women out there the courage to tell their own story a little more boldly, I have accomplished what I set out to do.

If you have read my book, whatever you thought of it, I would be honored if you would take the time to write a review. I do respect and appreciate your feedback, whatever it may be. The link is below.  



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