Endings…& Beginnings

I’m leaving the ranch.

For those of you who follow my Instagram feed, you know that for the past year I’ve lived at a peaceful little ranch (the road to the ranch is pictured in the photo here) out in the country that is almost too beautiful to be real. And you might be surprised to learn that I’m leaving, given how much affection I have for this place, this magical place, that saw so many ups » Read More

Dash of Sass: Stop Justifying Bad Behavior

How often do we justify things and people and behaviors in our lives that diminish us? I am passionate about this topic because I did it for 8 years: Justified over and over and over again the behavior of someone who claimed to love me but wasn’t acting loving toward me. I’d venture a guess that the #1 thing we justify is people’s actions so as to keep them in our life even though their » Read More

The Mason Jar

I wrote this over a month ago. It took me this long to feel ready to post it. A month later and my house barely remembers his visit. 

I like to believe that in a few more months like this…my life will feel just as wiped clean of his memory.

A week ago he walked into my house and with his words, attempted to tear it all down. Brick by brick, the words flew and the foundation » Read More

Dash of Sass: You Did All You Could. Now Let Go.

Maybe there wasn’t one thing you could have done differently to make things turn out differently. Maybe you did all you could (and then some). Maybe you should give yourself a break. Maybe, just maybe, you tried to love someone who didn’t love themselves enough to accept your love. Maybe the fact that you simply cared shows how brave you are. Maybe next time your efforts will be matched by someone who appreciates everything you » Read More

Dash of Sass: The Beautiful Uncertainty of a New Season

It’s funny how day by day, nothing on the surface seems to be changing, but then all at once you look around and you find yourself in the midst of a new season. With the best of summer behind us and the best of fall ahead of us, we’re in a transitional time…a time when nothing is certain & everything is possible. New seasons arrive when it’s time…not when we’re ready. And as melancholy as » Read More

Dash of Sass: New Day, New Way

Today, on this first day of a new month, I hope that you will decide that today is the day to stop replaying the past, stop wondering what you could have done differently, stop torturing yourself for bad decisions and wrong turns and crashes & burns, stop trying to put the pieces of a helplessly broken situation back together…and just. let. go.

Accept what has happened and what hasn’t happened to bring you to this » Read More

What Does Letting Go Look Like?

HOW do you let go and move on from ANYTHING in your life that no longer fits, no longer works, no longer brings you joy but pain, no longer brings you sunshine but rain?
Here’s how:
You take a deep breath, you say the words that you never imagined yourself saying, and you walk away. Battle-scarred and scared and unsure about the future as you may be, when you KNOW in your heart that this is not » Read More

Dash of Sass: Releasing the Idea of Someone

Quotes of the Day: “There’s a difference between loving the idea of someone and actually loving who they really are.” ~Unknown “Maybe you can try again, instead of loving someone you can’t be with.” ~Unknown The Single Woman Says: For those of you who have been following my blog for some time now, you know the story of my “Mr. Big.” And even if you » Read More

Fifty Shades of Cray: Lessons Learned From Exes Whose Elevators Don’t Stop on All Floors

As you all know, the Fifty Shades of Grey trilogy is still, all these years later, the hottest thing around. So hot, it’s about to become a movie. And even though I tried my best as a lover of books to read it a couple of years ago and get into it in order to not be left out of a cultural phenomenon, I honestly found it about as interesting as watching paint dry and » Read More

The Single Woman’s Dash of Sass: When to Let Go & Move On From…A Friendship

Excerpt from “The Single Woman’s Sassy Survival Guide: Letting Go & Moving On”… You’ve been friends since before the dawn of time. If life were a Barbie Dream House, you’d be Barbie and Skipper. You own the “BE FRI” necklace to her “ST ENDS” necklace. Every major event of your entire life is linked to this person, and you hardly have a memory without her in it. As a matter » Read More

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