Five Reasons Why You Should Never Chase a Guy

Modern-day dating can be extremely tricky. And by “tricky” I mean often infuriating, frustrating, and unclear. It’s ironic that with all the texting and Facebooking and Snapchatting and oodles of other ways to send messages back and forth nowadays, never has communication felt more…non-communicative. No one’s dating anymore, they’re “hanging out.” And in the midst of all this super casual “hanging out,” signals and wires and intentions seem to have gotten crossed. Instead of the men » Read More

Dash of Sass: Real Love is Never Halfway There

Dealing with “in-between” people…it’s exhausting, isn’t it? They never let you know where you stand with them…they give you just enough of their attention and time to keep you on their hook but yet they still swim free…they disappear for weeks and even months on end but manage to come around just frequently enough to keep you from moving on. For them, it’s a win-win…no real commitment required, all the perks of a significant other » Read More

Ten Things You Can Only Learn By Having Your Heart Broken

Today is one of my most significant ex’s birthday (whose name I won’t mention because I’m frankly tired of seeing it in print) and I find myself not thinking fondly back on our time together, but instead thinking gratefully of all the many lessons I have learned in our time apart. Or, to be more clear: In the time and space and distance I’ve had since he broke my heart for the final time almost exactly one » Read More

You Are Not Invisible

Sometimes I feel particularly invisible to the opposite sex. Kind of like Harry Potter tossed his magical Cloak of Invisibility around me when I wasn’t looking and then darted off to go do whatever it is Harry Potter is doing these days. (Of course, old Harry is a male so he probably didn’t see me in the first place!) But seriously…as much as the idea of having a super power appeals to me, I could » Read More

Dash of Sass: Hindsight is 20/20

You didn’t know. You trusted, and you loved, and you assumed the best of someone…and that is never wrong. You took a shot on love or on friendship…and that is always brave.You believed that the other person would treat you with the same dignity and respect with which you treated them…and that is noble.You didn’t know. You didn’t know they weren’t capable of loving you back. You didn’t know they weren’t trustworthy. You didn’t know they didn’t » Read More

Dash of Sass: Stop Forcing. Stop Chasing. (Seriously, STOP.)

There’s something I’m super frustrated with lately, observing myself and my friends and reading emails from ladies who write to me for advice…and that is this idea that women seem to have that we need to work our toenails off to make a relationship happen with a man. That we have to “put ourselves in the way” of these men, otherwise they won’t remember us. That WE have to go out of our way to » Read More

Dash of Sass: God’s Plan Vs. Our Plan

How many times do we get angry and upset with God, thinking He has forgotten us or is ignoring us or isn’t answering our prayer? Only to later look back and see how detrimental it would have been to us had He brought us the thing we were begging for and thought we couldn’t live without? We’re stuck down here in the details of everyday life, but God sees all. He sees the big picture. » Read More

Dash of Sass: Wait.

Wait. Don’t lose your cool, don’t assume the worst, don’t jump to conclusions. Don’t throw in the towel and say “God must have forgotten about me” or surrender to the idea that change is never coming or give up hope of ever falling in love or listen to the naysayers who want you to believe you’ll never find your way. WAIT. Breathe. Give things time to work out. Let God bring things to pass in » Read More

Dash of Sass: Stop Justifying Bad Behavior

How often do we justify things and people and behaviors in our lives that diminish us? I am passionate about this topic because I did it for 8 years: Justified over and over and over again the behavior of someone who claimed to love me but wasn’t acting loving toward me. I’d venture a guess that the #1 thing we justify is people’s actions so as to keep them in our life even though their » Read More

The Modern Dating Game: Three Ways It Makes Me Crazed

I seem to keep running into the same problems in my dating life. And so do my friends. Literally three or four different amazing, beautiful, successful single women in my life keep hitting the same wall as me…so I KNOW there must be something to it. I mean, as much as I adore Greg Behrendt (and here’s the proof), they can’t all possibly be “just not that into us”…right?!?

What am I talking about?

COMMUNICATION.

I don’t know » Read More

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