You Didn’t Know
You didn’t know. You trusted, and you loved, and you assumed the best of someone…and that is never wrong. You took a shot on love or on friendship…and that is always brave. You believed that the other person would treat you with the same dignity and respect with which you treated them…and that is noble.
You didn’t know. You didn’t know they weren’t capable of loving you back. You didn’t know they weren’t trustworthy. You didn’t know they didn’t have the capacity or the character to handle your heart with the same care with which you handled theirs.
You didn’t know. You didn’t have all the information that you have now. If you did, you might have chosen differently…and the truth is, sometimes in life and in love it takes standing too close to the fire to learn how not to get burned.
So forgive yourself for not making different choices. Because good choices make you happy but bad choices make you better and stronger. Keep being the brave, trusting person that you are, because someday the right person will love you for it instead of exploit you for it.
You didn’t know. Forgive yourself for not knowing.
Forgive them for what they did.
And let it go, armed with the beautiful knowledge that comes from going out on a limb, regardless of whether you fall or fly.
Next time will be better.
The above is an excerpt from my new book, You Are Enough: Heartbreak, Healing, & Becoming Whole. Get your copy at any bookstore or order it here.