You Didn’t Know

You didn’t know. You trusted, and you loved, and you assumed the best of someone…and that is never wrong. You took a shot on love or on friendship…and that is always brave. You believed that the other person would treat you with the same dignity and respect with which you treated them…and that is noble.

You didn’t know. You didn’t know they weren’t capable of loving you back. You didn’t know they weren’t trustworthy. You didn’t know they didn’t have the capacity or the character to handle your heart with the same care with which you handled theirs.

You didn’t know. You didn’t have all the information that you have now. If you did, you might have chosen differently…and the truth is, sometimes in life and in love it takes standing too close to the fire to learn how not to get burned.

So forgive yourself for not making different choices. Because good choices make you happy but bad choices make you better and stronger. Keep being the brave, trusting person that you are, because someday the right person will love you for it instead of exploit you for it.

You didn’t know. Forgive yourself for not knowing.

Forgive them for what they did.

And let it go, armed with the beautiful knowledge that comes from going out on a limb, regardless of whether you fall or fly.

Next time will be better.

The above is an excerpt from my new book, You Are Enough: Heartbreak, Healing, & Becoming Whole. Get your copy at any bookstore or order it here.

6 Responses to “ You Didn’t Know ”

  1. October 25, 2018

    Well said. Something I need to remember. Thank you!

  2. Samira
    October 25, 2018

    Thanks for sharing this. It really makes sense. I always try my best and always think is it my fault to make the choices. Mos
    Important thing I have my health, and work. I enjoy the life. No need to keep tension in my mind. Waiting for Prince Charming. It will be nice to get man who Loves you for who you are. I’m to read all your Books Mandy. Looking forward to read your latest one You Are Enough.

  3. Kimberley Bohr
    October 26, 2018

    I’d love to read more of your books

  4. October 29, 2018

    Love this! I can relate so much.

  5. Rose
    October 29, 2018

    First, I like the book and kind of went through the same things myself, so I feel I can give you some advice. Mandy, I feel like you need to maybe read up about understanding men and how they think and all of that. There are many good books on that topic, and “A New Mode” website is very good too. Unfortunately, because you have the title of, “The Single Woman,” it is going to turn men off towards you. This is because they don’t like women who are looking/desperate to get married. Also, since you work at home alone, you will probably have the tendency to think a lot about yourself all day long. You might want to get involved in things that don’t involve thinking so much about yourself. Also, in your book, you mentioned that you love romantic movies and all of that. That will make you not be realistic about marriage and what it is all about. And that is a turn off to men too. But God bless you and thank for all that I have learned from your books. I have all of them. And also–I hope you do go to the Catholic religion. It is the best.

  6. Rachel
    November 2, 2018

    So happy you are blogging again! I can’t wait to read your new book!

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