Twelve Reasons I’m Not Sad to Be Single

Single1.) I like the idea of sharing my life with someone…I’m just not sure I’m ready to share my closet. (70 pairs of shoes and counting…)

2) First kisses.

3) Messy breakups.

4) Because some days I just don’t feel like shaving my legs. (Shhhh…)

5) No one to cook for except me means I regularly have Frosted Flakes for dinner. And that’s GRRRRRRREAT! (Sorry, couldn’t help myself)

6) About 85% of the movies on my shelf are chick flicks. And I am unapologetic.

7) Netflix binges.

8) Spontaneous road trips.

9) Some nights I like to sleep on the right side of the bed, others, the left side. And some nights…right smack dab in the middle.

10) I spend as much time with God as I want. He’s never too busy and always on time.

11) I control the remote control. 🙂

12) Because I have the freedom to choose either my way OR the highway…and both are equally appealing.

What are some of YOUR favorite things about being single? Sound off in the comments below!



47 Responses to “ Twelve Reasons I’m Not Sad to Be Single ”

  1. Tina Rice
    August 22, 2014

    I just LOVE you! your 1st book really helped me cope with my divorce and realize how much better off I am now! everyone I know who is struggling with singleness or relationship issues I tell them the “like” you on FB and recommend the books. haven’t read the latest one yet but I will soon! keep up the good work and keep being an inspiration to single women of faith everywhere! This particular list could not be more true for me right now!

  2. August 22, 2014

    Keep writing!!!

  3. Sarah dane
    August 22, 2014

    You’ve made an amazing book, Mandy! Probably one book il never forget my entire life. Why? Because it’s something that ever woman must need to read. I’ve never fully enjoyed my singleness until I read ur book. It’s not only inspires me. It’s like having a friend who goes with you throughout the journey of singlehood and loving the things about yourself more. I’m
    Thankful that this book is available here in the philippines believe it or not, I fell in love with your book at first sight.

  4. Pat
    August 22, 2014

    I especially like #8, but they are all good reasons.

  5. August 22, 2014

    Love it

  6. Lucinda
    August 22, 2014

    Love this!

  7. Edilyn Caretero
    August 23, 2014

    I would love to read more of your book. It seems to be so nice and interesting!

  8. Annette
    August 24, 2014

    Hi Mandy! I purchased your book “The Single Woman” and am really enjoying it. Thank you for the encouraging and wise words. God bless you.

  9. Boipelo
    August 25, 2014

    4 & 11 Absolutely Agree…!!!
    I Bless God for this season.

  10. mattie
    August 25, 2014

    I love that .I have been single for 13 years and counting. I thought this whole time that i wanted and needed someone by my side for life.I wont lie .I do get lonley @ times ,but I have a male “friend” and he keeps me busy for the most part.but I think I have crossed a line where I dont think I want to be married or commited anymore .I,like you have come into my own and feel very comfortable there. I have recently watched close ppl to me get married and others seperate or divorce and it saddins me deeply and dont want to be in that number any more .I have decided that G-d is enough for me .thank you so much for sharing your life journey as well.

    • linbeth
      September 5, 2014

      True.Singleness is a calling. Marriage is also a calling. What matters to me now is I’m happy with what I have right now. God is so faithful to me. Yes, I had my struggles, but with God He will take care of everything.

  11. Chrystal
    September 5, 2014

    I love this blog…I too have been single a long time (almost 6 years)…but its depressing now. I do want to find my One and be with him. It seems impossible these days. Online dating is a joke. I am also a single mom, so Dating in general is just a laughing matter. As you mentioned though, we have all of these “freedoms” and as much as i love those, I think i want to share them with someone at this point in my life. I just dont know if i will ever get to at this rate.

    • leonard hare
      July 12, 2016

      Chrystal hang in there Mr, RIGHT will come along just make sure U take the time to recognize him Best Wishes

  12. Samantha
    September 7, 2014

    To think, that these are only a FEW of the reasons it’s so great to be single…I will admit that I’m still at the very beginning of the road to being okay with single, but I’m getting there. I’m a little over halfway done with “I’ve Never Been to Vegas…” and I LOVE it! It is truly inspiring and good to know that I’m not all alone in the single gal world. I can’t wait to read the first book after this.

    • leonard hare
      July 12, 2016

      Samantha U will be OK U seem like a strong woman who can take care of herself Best Wishes

  13. bonita veronica petersen
    February 14, 2015

    I pray to god for a husband for me and I am single for rest of my life I ask jesus to blessed me in jesus name jesus I am laim in my left side if there some one for me please let me know I know jesus is going to blessed me I love you jesus I am bornagain I really looking for a bornagain husband

  14. February 15, 2015

    Thank you for your posts, quotes, books..always what I need to hear.

  15. Carole
    February 15, 2015

    Singleness is not easy especially on valentines day. I am single but happy yet on days like this i feel liken am missing out on some special feeling that one gets from a partner. Sometimes being single is not out of choice but you just find yourself in the situation and make the best out of it……at least you dont have to put up with anyones moodswings but yours, infidelity and stinky socks…

  16. RMcGr
    September 12, 2015

    I never had a boyfriend. I’ve learned to embrace my singleness by embracing opportunities that come my way, like, traveling and volunteering. I’ve also been blessed to find a group of friends who are also single and enjoy living and loving life. Yes, at times, being single is emotionally difficult. But, I’ve found married people also have difficult times in their relationships. So the best thing is to be learn “to be content in all circumstances for this is the will for your life in Christ Jesus.”

    • leonard hare
      July 12, 2016

      Being single is not a curse I have seen that marriage paper ruin the lives of people who truely love each other before they got married DONT know why But I think they just feel like they dont have to try and please anymore

  17. caroline
    June 23, 2016

    I can have my house decorated with my colors, and have my dog and cats in any room they wish. Freedom of choice! But having someone to join me in this journey would be a nice change. Only if they are my best friend for life.

    • leonard hare
      July 12, 2016

      I have my house decorated in early trash and my dog runs the place lol

    • Tiffany
      July 12, 2016

      Me too!

  18. June 23, 2016

    Some would say anyone writing a post defending why they are not sad being single is because they are actually sad being single. But I’ll say if you are SINCERELY happy being single good for you. But as a never married single woman hitting 35 in less than 2 months, I am often sad being single and I’m not ashame to admit it. I get it though. I play the card with friends all the time, I try to convince them I am not sad because it’s harder when people start to pity you. And yes, I can find a few reasons singleness is freeing. However life is in phases and at the point I am now in my life I will gladly give up the comfort of being single in exchange for a life with someone who loves me and that I love.

    • Mandy Hale
      June 24, 2016

      I don’t post things as some sort of defense mechanism, Karo. I’m legitimately not sad to be single. I’m sorry that you are, but please don’t project that onto everyone else and their motives. There’s a difference between wanting and hoping to be married and being sad to be single. I for sure hope I get married…but that doesn’t mean I’m dragging around, depressed and moping and pouting and whining over my singleness in the meantime. Life is exactly what you make it – single or otherwise. And little word of advice: If you’re not happy now, as a single person, marriage or a relationship won’t magically make you happy. It starts with YOU. ~Mandy

    • leonard hare
      July 12, 2016

      It hurts coming home to an empty house but if the one U truely love is not there What does it matter?

  19. LaVera S Clark
    June 24, 2016

    Everything happens in due Season!
    Everybody that is Single is not Lonely
    And Everybody That is Married is not Happy!

    • leonard hare
      July 12, 2016

      So TRUE

  20. Trish
    June 29, 2016

    I’m single and never had a boyfriend. Most of my closest friends are also like me. I find the beauty of being single and I don’t find it embarrassing. I get to enjoy some stuff like watching movie by myself, doing things without depending on to a partner and many things. I am young and I know Dear God will send someone to me when He knows that I’m fully ready to fall in love. Xoxo

    • leonard hare
      July 12, 2016

      That is the best way to look at life I wish U the best

  21. Jenny
    July 2, 2016

    Keep up the good work you’re doing! I’m just another 36-year old girl whose autobiography is pretty much like yours and others who comment here. The unending days of being alone just give me this hollow, hopeless feeling. God has changed me in the last few years, and I’ve had to learn some really hard lessons from dating AWFUL men who told me they were Christians. One thing I’ve noticed is that men who are my father’s age or men who are married think they can flirt with me or even ask me out. It’s insulting and it seems to be another way the enemy hits me with another painful arrow. I struggle with feeling like maybe I appear vulnerable and defenseless to these men…

    • leonard hare
      July 12, 2016

      Jenny believe it or not There are some good men out there U just need to recognize them and avoid the a-holes giving us good guys a bad rap

  22. July 8, 2016

    thanks for posting this blog. this bolg is good quality blog. I like it.

  23. leonard hare
    July 12, 2016

    I like being single because I have no body to blame but myself

  24. leonard hare
    July 12, 2016

    I wish everyone has a safe and happy life, I hope whatever it is U are looking for in Ur life U find it Remember just yesterday U were just a little kid TIME goes by too fast CHERISH everyday

  25. Angela Carter
    July 12, 2016

    Single since 2007. It was very difficult at first. Then I found God and became comfortable with my singleness. Your posts and blog helps tremendously. Thank you.
    God Bless

  26. Tanya
    July 12, 2016

    #11 – plus spending MY money MY way!

  27. Ms. J
    July 12, 2016

    I Love this!! I’m totally with 5, 8, 9, & 11 Being single allows you time to get to know yourself, love yourself, & determine what you really want out of life/relationships.

  28. Mel
    July 12, 2016

    Mandy, thank you for your courage, effort, and kindness. You have opened wide your heart to many, in deep and every-day ways, too. I appreciate you. And I know I’m not alone in that sentiment. Regarding this list, I appreciate the “GRRRREAT” reference. Haha… I see what you did there. 🙂 … As a woman in my late 30s, single never married, I’m getting to the point where I just kind of smile and even laugh with JOY when the enemy tries to lie to me (again) about “how much greater” it is to be married. Ridiculous. As I like to say, I don’t want a gift God isn’t giving (right now). I also love the following about being single: 1. Not caring if I have a zit or two (no one to impress here :)). 2. Not caring if I’m bloated at certain moments. Oh well, I think my bloat baby is a beaut. 🙂 3. Getting to read as many books as I want to. 4. Getting to disciple other women over coffee, dinners, walks, etc.. 5. Getting to pursue my PhD (currently) with or without a man (currently, without) in my life. Nothing is holding me back from living a full life in Christ. I LOVE that no man (or demon) has that power over me. I spent far too many years (esp. in my 20s and even early 30s) thinking that I should just “wait around,” be excessively and perpetually “available.” And that I did. I appreciate the godly men I got to know; I just never fell in love with any of them. And that’s okay. The clock keeps ticking onward, and I’m so GRATEFUL for the chance to love God and love others in FREEDOM, pursuing my purpose. Otherwise, it is bondage to think we are required to be tied to someone to be complete. Only Jesus is enough. With or without a rock on my hand. – Keep doing what you’re doing!

    • Joy
      August 4, 2016


  29. Sarah
    July 13, 2016

    I have been married and have two gorgeous teenagers but when my husband died suddenly just over 5 years ago I was plunged back into a single life.
    It is hard but being married isn’t a path of sweet scented rose petals, there are thorns!
    My husband suffered from depression and although I loved him deeply, he was my soulmate, I also spent a lot of time walking on eggshells accomodating his moods and his needs. As well as putting the children first.
    I got lost and I have to admit in these last 5 years I have found me again.
    Yes it sounds corny, but I am enjoying my single life, it is opening new doors for me.
    I know God has a plan and a purpose for my life where I can draw in my experiences of marriage, motherhood and singleness to help others.
    I count myself blessed but do pray for those who are struggling with singleness today.
    And thank you Mandy for your wise words- you have helped me through some dark days over the past 5 years.
    God bless xxx

  30. July 13, 2016

    Hi all lovely single ladies, ,i,ve been single since. 2009,,, but i,m happy,,although sometimes it’s feel very lonely especially when ur not feeling well,, but God is great all the time AMEN!!

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  32. Paula Williams
    July 30, 2016

    I have never been single till now the first time since I was 17 , 3 very long term realtionships and only one ok ish , being an only child I suppose that made me crave having someone in my life wether they good or bad people , last relationshit almost killed me literally , so Im trying single life anf feeling a little lost , but Im sure at the age of 62 I dont have many chances left to find Mr Right …

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  35. Ngoni
    May 25, 2022

    I am 49 now, almost 50 and still single. I have so much freedom and am able to take care of my elderly parents. I don’t have to worry about a husband and children that need my constant attention. I am taking care of myself and did I mention the freedom!

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