Dash of Sass: Ten Signs You’re Dealing with a Manipulator
I was manipulated by someone that I loved and wanted to believe the best in for eight years…so suffice it to say, when I spot manipulation of any kind now in my life, I nip it in the bud immediately. And God has been teaching me so much about manipulation in this new year: Opening my eyes to ways in which I was being manipulative and also revealing to me people in my life who were attempting to manipulate me. As a result, I have been steadily detoxing my life of these negative behaviors and people. And now I urge you to do the same. Manipulation is toxic and dishonest and essentially is an attempt to put yourself in the place of God in order to control how things go and how people act and respond to you. It is unhealthy on every level. Here are some manipulative behaviors to look out for, both in yourself and in those around you:
5) Passive aggressiveness
6) “Subtweeting” or otherwise making veiled statements about someone on social media in an attempt to make a dig at them without having enough integrity to state your beef openly and honestly.
8) Twisting scriptures/invoking God’s name as a way to fit your agenda or control people/make them feel guilty
9) Lying/making up traumatic stories about catastrophes in your life in order to get attention.
10) Attempting to “buy” someone’s friendship with gifts/favors
If you are doing any of these things, even subconsciously…STOP.
If someone is doing these things to you…WALK AWAY.