Dash of Sass: What’s For You is For You

RelaxI didn’t write this quote, but this could well be my mantra for 2015. RELAX, I just keep hearing God whisper into my spirit. Stop striving. Stop seeking after things that others have. Stop DOING so much and just learn to BE. Because here’s the thing. You can easily scroll through Twitter or Facebook or any other social media stream at any given time on any given day and feel completely lacking and inadequate when you start comparing your life to those of the people you follow. But the problem is, you’re comparing the very WORST moment of your day with the very BEST of theirs. And you’re also comparing your path to theirs, and every time you do that, you will always come up lacking, because what is for them is not for you. On the flip side of that coin is: What is for YOU is not for THEM. You don’t have to panic because you don’t have what they have…you simply have to trust in the beauty of what YOU have. And it is enough. You possess every talent, every quality, everyTHING you could possibly ever need to walk your path. So relax. Stop comparing and stop competing. What’s for them will never be yours and what’s for you will never be theirs and the beautiful thing about God and about life is that everybody ends up exactly where they should be, when they should be, and who they should be. Always.

30 Responses to “ Dash of Sass: What’s For You is For You ”

  1. Martha Robeen
    January 22, 2015

    I was raised by an amazing single mother and she would always tell me that! What’s for you is for you and nobody can take it away from you!! Thank you for writing this. My mom has been in heaven for over 10 years and tonight I needed to be reminded of this and HE used you to remind me. Thank you.

  2. anonymous
    January 22, 2015

    thanks a lot!

  3. Lotta Pena
    January 22, 2015

    i agree with you

  4. Alex
    January 22, 2015

    This is exactly what I need to read at this very moment. Yes… if it’s meant for me, it will be. Amen!

  5. Kasey
    January 23, 2015

    What’s for you is for you and nobody can take it away from u. My father said it to me in Chinese in my teen years. I don’t quite grasp the quote but seeing it here again wow! And the article is such a timely reminder, what with seeing all the couples on the train. Sometimes they just seem.happier. But I would never want to be within the constraints of a relationship that feels claustrophobic or a relationship that’s not the right one for me. Thanks Mandy ~~~ You r my inspiration x

  6. January 23, 2015

    The beautiful thing about God and about life is that everybody ends up exactly where they should be, when they should be, and who they should be. Its only in God’s Grace.

  7. Rachelle
    January 23, 2015

    Whats for me is for me!! Thanks Mandy.

  8. E
    January 23, 2015

    This is very inspiring. I needed this today and i love every word!! Your Gods way of speaking to all the single ladies who are down. May you have more power Mandy and may you continue to inspire us all.

  9. January 23, 2015

    This is exactly what I needed to hear (read). I’m so bad about comparing my life to anyone else’s when I’m online. It’s really bad! Thank you for this post!

  10. Jackie
    January 23, 2015

    This is exactly why shows like The Bachelor aren’t helpful. No need to waste energy winning over someone. If it is meant to be, its not like a tournament.

    • Mariela
      January 23, 2015

      Indeed! 🙂

  11. Kim
    January 23, 2015

    I just finished reading the mystery book entitled “The Girl On The Train”. The story of the book supports your statement about comparing one’s life to someone else’s life. We see photos or glimpses of someone else’s life and we think that their life is wonderful and ours is not. We start to get sad about our life in comparing it to snapshots and the imaginary lives of others. You make an excellent point – we can’t really compare. Everyone has baggage and struggles. EVERYONE. Some are more hidden than others. We are not alone. Thank you for your post today.

  12. Karina
    January 23, 2015

    This quote couldn’t have come in a better time! It’s what I needed to hear. God always speaks to my heart his timing is always perfect.

  13. karol
    January 23, 2015

    2015 you are right on point. Love it

  14. Kay
    January 23, 2015

    This was right on time! I experienced an “inadequate” moment just last night and in hindsight, I realize how I was able to stay so calm and RELAXED. No need to stress when your BLESSED!

  15. Mariela
    January 23, 2015

    Thanks! I just needed a push to keep going and just found it. Bless u Mandy. Praying for you every day and night 🙂

  16. Wondering
    January 23, 2015

    What wisdom Mandy (and even though you admitted you did not create the quote, the way you elaborated on it was wonderful!). Man, you nabbed it — even to the point of looking at Facebook! How often I have come away after viewing pictures of families, a son’s graduation, a daughter’s wedding with that darn “twinge” (and held onto and “nurtured” becomes oh so much more than a twinge!) of “Where’s mine, Lord???!!!” But that is just our own desires (which are normal) being manipulated by the enemy and our still-existing flesh and being turned into “disordered desires” (not my terminology: got it from an issue of “Today in the Word” on the place of desire in our faith walk). I think that is exactly what you are warning us against, along with encouraging us not to believe the lie that God is depriving us, which so robs of joy. And for anyone who is interested in this concept of “disordered desires,” there is a whole month’s worth of reading in the September 2014 issue of “Today in the Word.” Oh man was this timely as I raged over my unmet desires!!! Anyway, thank you Mandy. This is so beautifully written and so, so true. Blessings, Terri

  17. Wondering
    January 23, 2015

    Darn, I forgot to add the central thought about that quote: consider what Jesus said to Mary as she sat before Him during His stay at hers and Martha’s home: “But one thing is needed, and Mary has chosen that good part, WHICH WILL NOT BE TAKEN AWAY FROM HER” (Luke 10:42). That is the one thing that granted, we ALL as Believers have: our personal relationship with Jesus Christ…and if we submit to it (not always easy, especially if we are wanting what someone else has — or MY terrible/favorite accusation: “But God, THEY have Jesus AND…”), nurture it, and DWELL in it (and not in what we perceive is someone else’s “wonderful life”), suddenly (supernaturally) that craving for “what others have and I don’t” tends to become more vaporous (which is what the Bible says our earthly life is anyway, right? A vapor?). AND it – that relationship with Him – will NEVER BE TAKEN AWAY FROM US…. Oh the cravings may raise their ugly heads; but that’s when we have to, like you alluded to Mandy, put them in the right perspective and go back once again to Jesus’ feet and dwell there instead. Thanks again. Terri ( :

  18. January 24, 2015

    Thanks for posting this! I, most of the time compare myself to others, to someone whos same age as mine, asking why them has a stable kob, good relationship, travel abroad, travel somewhere else which exactly the things I dont have. But thanks for sharing! It is right, whats for me is always for me.

  19. hendrik Loots
    January 24, 2015

    So true.Amem


  20. hendrik Loots
    January 24, 2015

    So true.Amen.

  21. ElsatheRD
    January 25, 2015

    Mandy, I am so glad I found your blog, there always seems to be words I need at just the right time! I’ll share something I posted on Facebook earlier this month (my own quote): ” If you were to walk in my shoes you would probably think the things that I think are sad, tragic, infuriating, or otherwise negative aren’t really that bad. Likewise the things I find endearing, funny, and positive you may not see what the big deal is about. But you know what? They are my shoes, not yours. They fit me perfectly and I wouldn’t trade them for anything. I’m the me that God created and that’s all I ever want to be! Love yall!”

  22. Patsy
    January 27, 2015

    whats for me is for me. If it’s meant to, it WILL be! Amen and amen

  23. Heather
    January 28, 2015

    Exactly what I needed to hear today.
    Yesterday I turned 28. And I’ll be flat out honest, I’m not where I thought I would be in life. I have so many goals, dreams, aspirations just like everyone else. And I’m struggling to be content and happy with where God has me right now.

  24. ijeoma
    January 28, 2015
  25. Cherie
    January 29, 2015

    Dearest Mandy, how about renaming and claiming yourself as “The Blessed Woman”? Instead of single woman. There is so much power in our words. Just a thought since single is not where you plan to stay, God willing. I love your work and am thankful for you. You are truly BLESSED! *************
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  26. Loreal Felder
    January 31, 2015

    Thanks for the email Mandy! I really needed this reminder; it’s forget conformation to what God has been trying to show me. Love you and God bless!

  27. Loreal Felder
    January 31, 2015

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    Thanks for the email Mandy! I really needed this reminder; it’s conformation to what God has been trying to show me. Love you and God bless!

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  29. Jessica
    May 15, 2015

    wow… This really hit home with me. I needed to read this today. It’s so easy for me to feel sad, inadequate, and lonely as I scroll through social media and see all the news and pics of engagements, weddings and babies. Even as I sit here single and still living at home. God knows what I need and when I need it. my life may not look like theirs right now, and that’s okay.

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