Dash of Sass: You Are NOT Alone
I keep trying and trying year and after and I am still alone. I pray every day. But everyone is a pair that I know and I am not included in anything. Many of my friends are married. I get excluded from the things they all do together as couples. When I make friends, they seem to tell me to find new friends that will do things with me. I just feel like I can’t win.
I can assure you, not everyone is a pair! I’m not. You are NOT alone. Please know that. I have thousands of women who follow my blog who are also single and hoping to find love someday. But I have a thought. You say you keep trying and trying. What if you just stopped STRIVING? What if you just surrendered, and determine in your heart to be happy no matter what happens? What if you just hand it all over to God and let Him decide? Jump into life with both feet and I promise it will embrace you back. Finding a partner won’t magically bring you happiness and contentment…those things have to come from you. Resolve to get involved in things and talk to strangers and join groups and put yourself out there with every ounce of courage you have…and I think you will be pleasantly surprised at the results.
You DO have to put as much passion and effort and energy into creating the life you want as you do your actual job. Actually, more. I would definitely recommend writing out some positive affirmations to speak over your life every morning. Tape them all around your house so you remember them. You’ll be AMAZED by how much just changing your energy and mindset will change your life. I would also recommend amping up your quiet time with God. Get into the word. Go in search of a church that you feel at home in and start getting involved. You might be tired, you might be discouraged…but nothing changes if nothing changes and YOU are responsible for building the life you want. Even if your dream man came along tomorrow, you can’t look to another human being to create a happy life FOR you. You have to do it yourself. The moment I started to realize that I am responsible for my own happiness, my life changed. Find an outlet to serve. Do something, volunteering or SOMETHING, that gets your mind off of your life and your problems and onto making someone else’s life better. You CAN change your life. YOU CAN! I promise. I did. It just takes making God your top priority, and making yourself and your happiness a priority. You can’t get a return on something you didn’t invest in…so it’s time to start investing in YOU and making the rest of your life the BEST of your life!
Winnie the Pooh said it best: “You can’t stay in your corner of the Forest waiting for others to come to you. You have to go to them sometimes.”
Love & Prayers,