Dash of Sass: Finding Out Who You Are
We tend to long for certainty and comfort and ease and structure…but the truth is, it’s in the midst of the uncertain and dark and unclear and broken times that we learn who we really are and what we’re capable of. So if today you’re going through it, know that it’s because you’re being prepared to come out someone entirely different on the other side. No pressure, no diamonds. No pain, no pearl. No cocoon, no butterfly. It all creates you and forms you and strengthens you and polishes you. The good times might create memories, but the bad times cultivate character and grace and inner beauty. “So be truly glad. There is wonderful joy ahead, even though you have to endure many trials for a little while.” ~1 Peter 1:6
I cannot thank you enough for posting this today. I am in a dark place at the moment. I don’t know who I am anymore. I have had medical challenges that I’m struggling with, loss of “him” – who as it turns out wasn’t good for me anyway! But now I’m floating alone on this island that is blank and I’m not sure how I want to decorate it for myself. At this very moment, I wonder why am I here. What’s the purpose of me? I am hoping for the wonderful joy ahead, but it must be pretty far ahead because I certainly haven’t been blessed with it yet.
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Edwin, this is not a dating site. It’s a blog for single women embracing their single status.
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It is most certainly true, the hardest of times,brings out the best of you. One will never value the sweet days of sunshine, until undergone the wrath of the dark.
Don’t I know it
I have been hearing sayings like these ….the sorrow brings strength. ..pain will strengthen you and now today this. I guess i should really keep this at the front of my mind. Especially since so much is happening ..i just had twin boys 7 months ago and already had a 5 year old daughter both have different fathers and my daughter dad does nothing and my boys father does more but not enough since we do have twins. Im not married and at this rate i not sure if thats in the plans for me . I was still talking to my sons father but although their wasnt a title he made it seem like one..then i founded out he was still talkin to a ex girl and telling her the samethings he was telling me and he lied about it all. We managed to move forward and not even two week Later he was still lying and making seem to her that i was just the kids mom but when he came over it was something different. I founded out he took my kids around her and who knows what else. I got the girl number not to start drama with her but to get the truth and i passed him the phone when i was done to him o he would know u are completely trapped now. What to do ??? I have to still see him for the kids sake but i dont trust him at all to take them he can only come over. I so hurt and i have taken him back so many times cause i just thought he was different u know the church guy and u might have been dealing with street guys all your life. I was let down by him i just knew he wouldnt do this but he did and did it more worst then any guy i have ever talked too. What do u do when u feel like this is your fault ..cause to be honest three months before i met him i felt God telling me to not date or talk to a guy for a year that would’ve been hard for me cause im the girl that jumps from relationship to relationship. Now in making the decision to have the babies i lose everything from a good job to leaving school etc while he gets to do wherever he wants when he wants. What do u do when u know if u wouldve listen u could have avoided all of this. Now im left with thoughts of here we go again doing the mom thing with no or hardly no help from their dads or i let my kids down and now they only have a consistent mom in their lives. Sigh… how can i believe that God has more or better in life when i created this and its apart of the u reap what u sow or…. thats what happens when u disobey God. How can i really move forward and forgive again and trust again. I now have issues with myself and yet have to be strong for the kids.
Sorry for the long email….kc
Many, I wanted you to know that every time I see one of your posts and read them on Facebook you minister right to me. I’m amazed at how accurate it is. I love your page and movement. I’m from South Africa and would love to get your book.
I have been dealing with chronic jaw pain for almost two years. I felt this really spoke to me today. Thank you so much!
This is so awesome!! I so needed this encouragement. I’ve been single for years and refuse to settle, but can’t help but wonder when is the real thing coming? Reading this helps.
I love ur articles… everytime i read something u wrote it seems as if it’s speaking about everything that I am feeling and ur talking about ME… i read them and they are soooo inspiring. I love the scripture references… thank u sooo much!!!
truly amen to this!
I am having such a hard time at the moment with men & life in general & to come and read your posts honestly helps. Thank you
can I just say how much I love you and I have never met you .you speak to my soul everytime I read your blog ,you are right on time with your words ,just like you are walking the same life I am ,even thought there is an age gap in there, we seem to be like kindred spirits and I love it .thank you so much fro blessing me ,as I pray you are blessed by others .carry on sister 🙂
Through the years I’ve been with you tru your highest high and lowest low of your life.. Accepted all your flaws, short comings and imperfections.. Embrace the WHOLE of you.. Perhaps, now is the time i should set you free.. For you to be truly happy! I’m sorry, if i hurt you! If i always threaten you that i will leave you!.. I really dont want to leave you,, it’s just that,, i have to! Thank you for the wonderful time well spent with me!!
While I agree that there is grace after pain and that trials strengthen us as a human being, it is also important to point that we need to continue to take action to remove the pain, and not let it break us.