Day 13: Describe How You Met the Last Person You Texted & Talk About Your Relationship

Day 13How I met the last person I texted and what our friendship means to me.


The origin of our friendship is so bizarre, it’s almost not to be believed. I have known Alli since she was literally in her mother’s womb. You see, I was her baby-sitter for about a decade before I was her friend, as we are exactly ten years apart in age.

My sister Cher and I were playing at the end of our driveway one day back in the day when we looked up to see a very pregnant lady doing the adorable pregnant lady waddle over to us. It was our neighbor across the street, looking for a babysitter once her baby was born in a few weeks. Cher excitedly took the job, which I inherited from her two or three years later, when she got older and started driving and became “too cool” for babysitting. Allison and Abby, or “The Girls,” as we called them; one brunette and straight-haired, one blonde and curly-haired, became such an important part of our lives, from day one. We adored those little girls as though they were our own. I wound up spending summers as their nanny, running across the street from my door to theirs, just as excited to see them as they were to see me. And though I doubt if Alli and Abby ever realized this – I grew up alongside them during those years as their babysitter. I went from a little girl of age 12 to a grown woman of age 22. I stopped babysitting for them right around the time that I graduated from college – around the same point in life where Alli is now. A few years ago, Alli came to intern with the company I was working for at the time and we had the opportunity to hang out as adults and became fast friends. Little did I know as I was changing her diapers and helping to potty-train her and bandaging her scraped knees a million years ago that she would one day become one of my very best friends. That’s one of my favorite things about life – you never know in the instant that you make what feels like a minor and insignificant decision that it could wind up impacting the rest of your life.

Another thing that’s special to me about my friendship with Alli is the feeling of history repeating itself with the spirit of “The Girls.” Me and my sister were the first duo: she auburn and curly-haired and me with dirty blonde stick-straight hair. Then came Alli and Abby. And now my sister has two girls, Emma and Olivia; Emma with light brown curls and Livi with flaxen blonde straight hair. I love the evolution of three generations of two different but equally feisty and spirited little girls, always one straight-haired and one curly-q. Emma is just one year younger than I was when I started helping my sister watch Alli and Abby. And Alli is now just about three years older than I was when I stopped watching her and Abby.  Having a front-row seat to Alli and Abby’s lives and Emma and Olivia’s lives as they change and evolve is a bit like peeking in at myself ten years ago, and twenty years ago. The challenges. The heartbreaks. The growing pains.  Times have changed, but I’m happy to see that the really important things have not: The bond between sisters. The beautiful struggle of finding your place in the world. The process of becoming who you were meant to be.

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30 Responses to “ Day 13: Describe How You Met the Last Person You Texted & Talk About Your Relationship ”

  1. October 23, 2013

    Beautiful story. It’s amazing how people show up in your life who are meant to be there ♥
    Day 13

  2. erin
    October 23, 2013

    Wow.. its amazing how things come full circle. I can not thing of the last person that i sent a text to.. i can think of the many guys that I have sent a text to and the relationship has not turned out quite like i planned. But its not up to me, Its up to God. A lot of the relationships I have had either faded away or we are still friends, but its not as close. I figure most of the relationships that I have had either dating or friendships have served their purpose and now its time to move on. Some of them I wish would have stuck around and others I am kinda glad they have moved on. All in all I feel like I am exactly where god needs me to be and I love the relationships that I am forming now and I am enjoying where God has me 🙂 I feel incredibly blessed 🙂

  3. Amanda
    October 23, 2013

    The last person I texted was this guy Max. We met at a bar through mutual friends and it turns out we live right across the street from each other. Something just clicked between us and we became friends fairly quickly. However, lately our friendship has turned into more of a FWB relationship. He just has this charming personality that just draws me in and always looks out for me and my other friends when we are out. However, his charming personality also makes me sort of guarded. I’m enjoying our current relationship and just trying to see where things take us.

  4. Jules
    October 23, 2013

    Interesting challenge______ I don’t get enough of texting, I don’t go a day without texting. One of the many things I love what my boyfriend and I share. I had no expectations when I met “Edward”, but one thing he did do was TEXT! We met online, and truly feel it was meant to be, and for some reason we were meant to come in each others life at that precise time. It has been truly beautiful, that begun with no expectations and it only gets better and better, I could not see my days without him. That’s all…:)

  5. Asma
    October 23, 2013

    I met the last person I texted, on the net , in a social network . it was great for me having the opportunity to know a person who has a quite different thoughts than i have, especially in a very critical period, he was the first person i talk with about all my fears and doubts.I respected a lot his ambitions and prospects, he could in a very short time change positively my thoughts.we were a good friends for a period of time where we wanted to know each other in a distance relationship.
    though, it was a very short relationship, from which i have learned that each person coming into our lives, has a very specific role to play, a role that is not scripted by us .

  6. kay
    October 23, 2013

    The last person I texted is ‘T’. Someone I’ve known for a little over 15 years. We always pop in and out of each other’s lives. It can be months at a time, sometimes years but we always find our way back and pick up like nothing ever happened. I would say he is my male best friend. We talk about everything, give each other advice about our relationships, we may even go out for dinner and drinks from time to time. We both just got out a bit of a sticky relationship so we’ve kind of been leaning on each other during the moving on phase. He’s a really cool guy and I love the relationship we have.we even call each other BFF, lol.

  7. Traycee Frey
    October 23, 2013

    The last person I texted, was my 17 year old niece. My mini-me! I’ve known her since she was born. 🙂 I knew instantly the moment I held her what a special bond we would have. She is the only niece I have at the moment (another one due in a few weeks) but she truly is my mini-me. We carry the same love & passions for things – love of music, gift of playing the piano, the love of baking & crafting and as funny as it is – our love for coffee! I guess, that’s kinda my fault I had her drinking it at the age of 4! (thank goodness I have such an amazing sister in law, who never complained, but let it go as it was our special outing & time together) Now on days she doesn’t get her coffee, she sends me text letting me know she’s in the “depths of despair” b/c she hasn’t gotten her coffee! I guess it’ll be my job to support her coffee addiction when she goes off to college next year! I feel honored that I’ve got such a special bond with her, and that even though I live 13 hours from my family, my brother & his wife, have constantly strived to keep me close to the kids as best as possible. My niece & I talk nearly everyday, through text or facebook. I know she looks up to me, so I’m careful in my life to know that someone depends and looks up to me as much as she does.

  8. Kimmi
    October 23, 2013

    The last person I texted was my 12 yr old niece. This past June I moved away from home to be with the man I loved. Three months after moving, starting new jobs and starting a new life he tells me that his feelings have changed. So now being 800 miles away from family I miss them oh so much!! I try to keep in contact with everyone on some level! My niece is such a beautiful, kind hearted girl who I am proud to say shares the same blood as me 🙂

  9. October 23, 2013

    Haha, Mandy your post sounds so much like mine, it’s kind of scary! // Kindred Spirit –

  10. Andrea
    October 23, 2013

    The last person I texted was my “Bobsie”. My “Bobsie” twin and I meet freshman year in college. Our nicknames began when we would meet on campus an find ourselves wearing identical outfits. Our parents bought us the same clothes at Christmas that first year. Ironic, given that they hadn’t met at that point. We complete the ying and yang. She is trusting where I am skeptical. She is outgoing where I am shy in social situations. I’m the fighter where she is more likely to sit back let the situation play itself out. Everyone knows when I am angry. My Bobsie could win an academy award for masking what’s going on in her life. But my Bobsie, she is the person I can call in tears who sits on the phone with me for 45 minutes until I compose myself to explain the hysterical tears. She’s the person I text everytime Mary J. Blige’s “Real Love” is on the radio – just because it reminds me of our time in college. She’s the one I can call at 2am and say “I can’t sleep.” I am lucky and blessed to have her in my life.

  11. Julia
    October 23, 2013

    The last person I texted was my cousin and one of my besties, Nicky. I met Nicky a long time ago buy we didn’t really start seeing ourselves as people we wanted to hang out with until I was 18. Somewhere there hahaha we know the deepest, darkest recesses of each others closets and we still love each other. I am very grateful to have a friend and family member like her in my life. It is never awkward between us but we do have our moments were we get mad with each other hahaha I live my Nickel 🙂 <3

  12. Leanne
    October 23, 2013

    The last person I texted was “P” a man that I met online. He is handsome and charming and we have had some amazing text chats. We have only met once and at this time I am unsure if we will meet again. Our first meeting went well and he talks of meeting again but won’t commit to a time. I got the dreaded… I am away too much and too busy for a relationship line the other day.

  13. Janette Alvarez
    October 24, 2013

    The last person I texted is my BFF Sonia. Met her when we were 16 in NY, but did not become BFF till we were 21 and going dancing in NY.We are still BFF both Moved to Miami, Fl and she is an amazing friend. From knowing her I met many people and my other BFF Diana ( her cuz). I could not imagine life without Sonia. We are sisters who are geting closer to the Lord and trying to live life grateful and full of love. She is married with two kids and shares her family as wer are both 48 and i have no kids ( widow).

  14. Liz
    October 24, 2013

    The last person I sent a text to was Chris. We met at a bar when he came up to me and asked me for my number. I had just broken up with my bf and told him I didnt want to give him my number bc I had just gotten out of a relationship and wasnt ready to date again and he said, that is exactly why you should give me your number. So I did and we started off texting and talking on the phone some and we argued a lot for the first couple of weeks…but the funny thing was that the arguments revealed to me a lot of the issues I needed to face with myself. Then we met up for drinks and we have been dating ever since but I didnt really see him as someone I would want a relationship with…until the past week or so!!! He is always there for me during hard times. He has seen my not so good sides and while he might take some space from me, he doesnt run away. He forgives me when I resort back to my immature ways. Im like, wow, these are real reasons I like him…not just bc he spoils me, or he’s hot or there’s this amazing physical chemistry. Now this week I am feeling really insecure about him…I would really like to take this to the next level but he is what I consider a lifelong bachelor. Im starting to take everything personally that never bothered me before…all the usual “stuff” that starts happening in relationships when you fear losing it. So this morning I am reading all I can on how to just let go, be love, and trust that what is best will fall into place. 🙂

  15. October 24, 2013

    Her name is Nancy. She is my best friend. She’s in South Dakota now but she’s the last person I texted and usually the only person I talk to most days.

  16. Christina
    October 24, 2013

    The last person I texted is my best friend Amanda. We met our freshmen year of college at a “move-in mania” event- this was for students that were in the dorms and wanted to get to know the campus. We happened to sit together at “Picnic with the President” and have been friends ever since! We have both experienced some tough heartbreaks and other tough times, and we have both been there for each other, and we have had some awesome times too. I am so grateful to have her as my best friend! 🙂

  17. Alisha
    October 24, 2013 I’m new to blogging, but have so many stories to tell. I’m only 31 and I am single for the first time in 16 years. Yup. And boy is this a journey. Follow my blog, and experience this journey with me. XO Alisha Sperlik

  18. Mariel
    October 25, 2013

    Abbey – we met in 1997 in school. We became friends, turned lovers, turned ex’s, turned lovers again in highschool, turned ex’s, got back together in college.. Ending ex boyfriend/girlfriend. Just to funny that after all these years we managed to be friends and talk about each others lives, his marriage, talk about the good old days. We havent bumped each other for almost 12 years. I know things were meant to happend, maybe were not meant to be lovers but as good friends. Maybe it is the respect for the friendship and the memories that binds us and it works. Saying works, feelings fade but they dont die.. After all first love never dies. I am still glad though we may not ended together. I am still his first ❤️.

  19. Bernice
    October 25, 2013

    Last person I text is my friend who I met last year. She was a struggling first year student who moved from KZN, to Johannesburg. I on the other hand was a second year student who knew Jo’burg like the back of her hand. I became friends with her at a point in her life where everything seemed to be falling apart (broke up with a long term boyfriend, grades weren’t looking good either). I’ve seen her transition from this dark child to a happy, free spirit being and its been AMAZING!!! Man does she get on my last nerves sometimes but I love her nonetheless- she’s become like a sister to me.

  20. October 25, 2013

    accident is not part of God’s divine plan. you met for a reason. and it’s amazing how it began and where it brought you.

  21. Ngoni
    October 27, 2013

    I am not a big fan of texting. I love to hear the human voice! The person I texted the most in my life were actually two people: a college classmate and a Mormon missionary. I only text when necessary, but I love to talk to people in person or on the phone when I want to carry on a conversation.

  22. Kimberly
    October 27, 2013

    Just bought The Single Woman: Life, Love, and Dash of Sass. Finished reading the entire book in just a few hours! Absolutely inspiring, uplifting, empowering, and motivating. Full of priceless wisdom, and invaluable advice for leading a flourishing & fulfilling life. Mandy Hale directs her readers to a powerful & meaningful life path. It does not have to be limited to women only, many men would benefit from the incredible information provided as well. This book truly helped guide me at a very pivotal point in my life, so grateful for having the opportunity to gain such indispensable knowledge.

  23. Laurah
    October 29, 2013

    The last person I texted is my LJ,I met him about 3months ago,when I moved out of my old place. We used to fight a lot,we still do but now we kiss & stuff :),he makes me happy but I would never tell him.

  24. Victoria
    November 2, 2013

    James. My financial advisor. We have been friends for about 6 years. He has brought me so far financially! And i am definitely not one of his normal clients. His family is just beautiful, and i am blessed to have him in my life!
    Come to find out, we argue about twice a month but never ever get off the phone angry. 🙂

  25. Lynn
    January 29, 2014

    The last person I texted was ex- husband #1. We were married for 25 years and we have 2 sons and 2 grandsons together. We talk a couple times a week. I don’t want to be in a relationship with him again. We make each other laugh easily and we care about each other and offer motivation as needed..
    He wants to get me back in bed but I am not going down that slippery slope. Instead I’m learning how to be single, happy and self-sufficient.
    I’m literally talking to myself aloud cheering myself on and bring my own best friend.. Self love and respect is my curriculum this year.

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