Day 6: Sound off on the Quote, “Every Woman Has the Exact Love Life She Wants”
I heard this quote in the movie The Wedding Date a few years ago and I remember it hitting me like a punch to the gut. Is it possible, that contrary to what I’ve always thought, singleness didn’t just arbitrarily HAPPEN to me? Is it possible that I chose it?
Let’s examine the evidence.
I like my life. I like my schedule. I like staying up late and sleeping in. I like the quiet, peaceful hours between midnight and 3am. I like stretching across the entire bed if I want to. Better yet…I like using the empty side of the bed for the books and magazines and other materials I examine and read for research late into the night. Or my laptop. Or a stack of DVD’s I’m making my way through.
I like running my fan at night as I sleep and I like keeping the window up to let in the cool fall air so I can snuggle even deeper into my covers. I like that I don’t have to listen to snoring as I sleep. I like that if I wake up at 4am and want to eat cookies in bed, I can and I don’t wake anyone up in the process. I like that my DVR is filled with Dancing With the Stars, Scandal, The Voice, and reruns of The Golden Girls and Friends, rather than football or the news.
I like that my closet is filled (to the brim) with my clothes and shoes and that I don’t have to save half the space for his clothes and shoes. (I especially like this).
I like that I can eat cold pizza for breakfast and cereal for dinner if I choose. I like that I can flip the two meals without concern that someone won’t like my random tastes. I really like that I can use my kitchen cabinets for storage space rather than dishes or canned foods. I like that I don’t own a Crock Pot, nor do I know how to use one. I like that I have no need to know that right now.
I like that I choose my own bedtime, my own alarm clock setting, my own home décor, my own vacation spots, my own TV channels, my own meals, my own LIFE. I like that I’m only thinking and planning for one. I like that even though I have multiple remote controls that I have no clue what they go with and I’m terrified to toss out because they might be connected to a device that I might someday want to use again…I control them all.
I like that I can sit on my front steps on a cool autumn night with a blanket and a cup of hot cocoa and talk to God for HOURS, because I don’t have anywhere else to be or anyone else to be with. I like that my heart belongs to Him and is safe with Him. I like that He is the only entity I feel the need to consult with before making big life decisions…and I like that I have the luxury of a deeply intimate walk with Him, because He has my undivided attention and undistracted devotion. I’m pretty sure God really likes that, too.
So after giving it all very careful consideration…I think I chose my life. It didn’t choose me.
“Every woman has the exact love life she wants.” Hmmm. Maybe that’s not such a scary, negative thought after all. Maybe someday that will change. Maybe I won’t want singleness anymore. Maybe someday singleness won’t want me. But for now, for today…I want it and I choose it.
And I won’t apologize for it.
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