Day 3: Describe a Moment or Day When Being Single Was Really Awesome

Day 3Describe a moment or a day when being single was really awesome.

At the risk of sounding incredibly cheesy…every time I interact with you guys, my readers, I am reminded of how awesome this single journey is. Why? Because when I hear from all of you about how seeing one of my tweets or reading The Single Woman: Life, Life, & a Dash of Sass has inspired you to dream bigger, shoot higher, go for the job you really want, take yourself out to dinner alone for the first time, walk away from a toxic relationship (and the list goes on and on and on)…I am reminded that the single journey isn’t really “single” at all…because we’re all in this thing together. Who understands the highs and lows and ups and downs and joys and pains of the tragic, magic life of a single woman better than other single women? Although I am only connected by heart and by the Internet to the majority of you, and may never meet most of you face-to-face, I think of you every day. I pray for you every day. I wish for good things for you every day. I literally wake up dreaming of something I need to tell you that day and go to sleep planning out what I need to share with you the next day. You guys are collectively the longest “relationship” I have ever been in – LOL! Almost four years and counting! So just know that I HEAR you. I SEE you. I read all your emails and tweets and Facebook posts and blog comments, even the ones I don’t have time to respond to. I am inspired by you. I live my life at a higher standard BECAUSE of you. And I would not have become half the woman that I have become over the last four years of this amazing journey without you. So THANK YOU. Thank you for sharing your bravery, your passion, your spunk, your beautiful hearts, your boldness, your tears, your fears,  your stories, your LIVES with me every single day. It has been the greatest honor of my life to walk this single journey with you. And I can say with complete and total honesty that I am happy that I didn’t get married ten years or five years ago or last year or when the guy shut down the jewelry store to show me engagement rings or when fear caused me to run from the “perfect catch” guy or especially when the crazy ex texted me a marriage proposal at 3:00 am…because every closed door was pushing me toward the one I was really meant to walk through.  After all, if I had become “The Married Woman” before I got to be “The Single Woman,” I would have missed out on knowing all of you. And I wouldn’t have missed this for the world.

So to narrow it down to just one day or one moment when it was amazing to be single isn’t really possible for me! Thanks to you, my beautiful friends, every moment is amazing to be single.

Because I have the BEST 550,000 best friends a girl could ever ask for.

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61 Responses to “ Day 3: Describe a Moment or Day When Being Single Was Really Awesome ”

  1. October 6, 2013

    Moments when being single is awesome is when my ex try’s to tell me I shouldn’t be doing something I really want to do, and I can say I can do whatever I want to do anytime I want too! Yay!!

    • erin
      October 7, 2013

      Being single is a blessing …. i think this might be kinda bad to say, but i am thankful the most when i see friends go through a divorce or a rough relationship .. it makes me appreciate being single more .. and the fact that i can come and go as i please and do what i want when i want is kinda refreshing at the same time … it would be nice to have someone to come home too . .but that is all in gods timing … i dont need to rush HIM 🙂

  2. Michele
    October 6, 2013

    Times when I can go anywhere and do anything and not worry about checking in or having to explain myself to anyone.

  3. Jay
    October 6, 2013

    When I went out with two couples who were just not getting along.I said so glad I a single right now….

  4. October 6, 2013

    I love when my single girlfriends & I show up to a restaurant or event…heads turn! We have freedom without guilt to interact with everyone. We are fun, we are free, we have gained confidence and we will not settle!

  5. maureen
    October 6, 2013

    The day I realized I could do anything I wanted without any ones approval or input was pretty awesome! Went to the movies by myslef came back to read (at that time it was Rick Warrens “The purpose driven life”) and felts God’s presence telling me everything was going to be ok.

  6. Traycee Frey
    October 6, 2013

    The moment for me when I’m glad I’m single is when my married friends are having it rough with their relationships! I’m sad for them as they encounter almost daily heartbreak at the hands/mouths of their husband’s, but it makes me most thankful that God has preserved me and saved me from that heartbreak. I know no relationship is perfect, and sometimes weathering thru the storm helpes strenghten us and mold us, but when my friends struggle on a daily basis it makes me more appreciative of my singleness.

  7. October 6, 2013

    I love this blog and challenge! I only started following last week and I can say, you’ve helped me. Walking away from a toxic relationship I know is the right choice, even if it doesn’t feel like it in this moment. So thank you.

    • michelle
      October 6, 2013

      It is sooo tough walking away from a toxic relationship. Eventually, you will be much happier and so much stronger!! Hang in there.

  8. Rachel B
    October 6, 2013

    When I bought my first brand-new car all by myself and drove it home! Also days when I go shopping or to the spa. Or when I’m in line behind a couple who are fighting or nasty to each other.

  9. Linda Belthius
    October 6, 2013

    I was married at 19 and was with my late husband 44 years…three beautiful daughters and six Grands later I am single..lost my husband 3 years ago and have now discovered me! Yes me! I have dated and the last one just showed me why I am still single! I love the fact I can do as I please and not answer to anyone….I shall be buying your book soon…♥

  10. michelle
    October 6, 2013

    When i get to love on my grandaughter all by myself and not have to share her with anyone.

  11. Elizabeth
    October 6, 2013

    Each day you realize there is no one there to contradict you or make you feel inferior, is a blessing knowing you are single!

  12. October 6, 2013

    Day 1 – 3 – I love this! It may just cure my writers block!
    http://leftbean.com/2013/10/06/the-single-womans-30-day-blogging-challenge-day-1-3/

  13. Robin
    October 6, 2013

    My “Stunningly Single” moment was when I came home from work after a VERY long day, put on the comfy clothes, and ate a bowl of cereal for dinner. Sounds cheesy, but after an almost 30 year relationship (almost 28 married) that simple moment was RELIEF. I could do what I wanted, how I wanted, when I wanted…

  14. Simone Michelle
    October 6, 2013

    The day I broke up with my ex. I just got my keys to my first apartment and new beginning, also I began dating again as well.

  15. Julia
    October 6, 2013

    Every single day or chance I get I am grateful that I am single. I have freedom to do what I want, when I want and how I want too. I can turn up something really girly without having to hear the man in my life complaining about “that girl doesnt know how to sing” or making some comment about women. Or better yet! Driving without having someone harass me about my driving. Wearing what I want out. Showing up for supper or an event with my single girlfriends and feeling so proud…because we are single and confident. I love knowing and loving myself enough to know I won’t settle but more importantly…that I enjoy my own company 🙂

  16. Mary
    October 6, 2013

    Being single felt really good when I decided to end a relationship to pursue a greater purpose of studying abroad. Ending the relationship was not easy but studying abroad was such a fulfilling and life-changing experience that I think it was totally worth it.

  17. Marisol Millomeda
    October 6, 2013

    Day 3

    It feels so awesome and fabulous being single for sooo many reasons. I manage my own time, I can almost do things married people cant do without the approval of their spouses… I can flaunt myself if I want to…hhehhee.. I love being SINGLE <3

  18. Tanya
    October 6, 2013

    The days Iove being single is when I read or hear about people who are having issues or difficulties with their boyfriend or girlfriend. Remembering that I too was there once, but that everything happens for a reason and I’m single and loving it, I don’t have to reply to anyone, I can do what I want, when I want.

  19. Laura
    October 6, 2013

    I love the single moments. I have met some really great men. each one better than the last, but not the one. I know my single time is for me. To enjoy. To deal with what needs to be dealt with that would keep me from having a happy, healthy, committed relationship. I would rather be alone then in a bad relationship.

  20. Refiloe
    October 6, 2013

    When I have to wake up at 4:30 am & go to the gym and when I feel like going again at night, I can do it without apologising.

  21. Lynda
    October 7, 2013

    Hanging out with the crowd I wanna hang out with. A guy can replace your crowd. A crowd that can and will help you out as a believer.

  22. NZUKI
    October 7, 2013

    exciting journey …a life where iam accountable to GOD n myself..:)

  23. Natalia
    October 7, 2013

    Thank you for your kind post Mandy, love it!
    Being single is really awesome when you do things you want to do just for yourself, like going on a holiday on my own. I think that I wouldn’t have done that if I had a boyfriend, but last July I went and it was awesome. It is also great to go out for dinner or to the cinema or other activities on your own and meet new people because you aren’t afraid to stand alone.
    Xx

  24. CJ
    October 7, 2013

    The best feeling is when you can be yourself with the imperfections, qualities and you dont have to listen to the criticism. Someone trying to put you down.The best classic one is going out without guilt. It hasn’t been easy to let go of non productive relationship. Now its me time.

  25. October 7, 2013

    When I finally got hold of this book in kindle, I read, re-read it and shared it with my students in school. My grade 5 student shed a tear when I read to her about loving yourself and finding the U in You. It was then that I realized that kids, and the young at heart need this book as much as we do. This should be a very good bible for every teenager, adolescent or pubescent kid who is also undergoing alot of things emotionally. I am looking forward to making this book a must read in our library. Thank you Mandy. Now, as an administrator I can really connect better with the teenagers in my school…

    • Mandy Hale
      October 7, 2013

      Rachel – This is beautiful. And it confirms for me what I was already feeling, that my next book will be written specifically for the middle school/high school crowd. Thank you for sharing this. Please send your precious students love and hugs from me!

  26. Ellen
    October 7, 2013

    the day I signed mortgage papers for MY first house after my divorce. IT’S MINE ALL MINE! No one can tell me I can’t paint something I can’t change something…love being in control of what I want without fear of being told no. life is fabulous!

  27. Yolanda De La Cruz
    October 7, 2013

    The day that I relized myself worth as a woman and left my husband, I’m not quite single just yet but I love my freedom and I’m so looking forward to getting divorce all in due time.

  28. October 7, 2013

    When I went to Germany in February 2012 to train for 6 weeks and I didn’t have to think twice. I was then planning on Relocating from London to Birmingham and I did not have to think twice about. I was just ready to go.

  29. Sassha
    October 7, 2013

    I’ve joined the Blogging Challenge: http://www.sramirezacosta.wordpress.com! Thanks for inspiring me!

  30. Kelly
    October 7, 2013

    Being single is almost awesome everyday because I can do what I want & when I want to. I don’t have to rush home (well except to let my pup out) or check in with someone. A lot of my friends aren’t able to get out & do fun things because they have to be around their significant other. I’m glad I’m able to jump up & go shopping, or grab a bite to eat with a friend, or just be pajama lazy all day on the couch with my Netflix & a bag of cookies…

  31. April
    October 7, 2013

    Being single is awesome because you can do what you want, when you want, and how you want! YOU can be amazing, happy, confident, and have a sense of adventure in your life without being responsible for anyone else. You’re doing it for yourself and one else, and that my sisters in so empowering!!

  32. Shanell
    October 7, 2013

    Here is my day 3! I’m so in love with this challenge and was definitely in need of an single gal outlet http://lospiensamientosdulces.tumblr.com/post/63441208957/thesw30-day-3

  33. Nati
    October 8, 2013

    Last yr was 1 of my fav moments when I took a solo vacay to Toronto/Niagara. I drove from Chicago(8 hr drive) & it was amazing. I planned my whole trip, did whatever I wanted to do, ate where I wanted to eat. The funniest part was when I was crossing the border there and back the patrol seem dumbfounded that I came solo but not in a suspicious way, more like a damn your crazy way lol. Best.Single.Moment.Ever.

  34. Kiki
    October 8, 2013

    A moment for me being single was really awesome was when I realized that I could just do anything I wanted to. Go out with friends, come home whenever go wherever. All without being questioned and or ignored about it. Also when I got to spend more time with my family because I realized how much of that relationship was consuming me and I felt as if I were missing out on a lot of things which I was physically and mentally.

  35. Tavalon
    October 9, 2013

    Heck every time I come back to my, emphasis on my, houseboat. Especially if I can see Mt. Rainier. It isn’t perfect, but it has potential and no one else making choices without me. This place runs as well or as poorly as I run it. Leaning how to not take full care of my son and therefore find things that I want to do.

  36. Jessica
    October 12, 2013

    Hey Mandy!
    I think the BIG moment where singleness really rocks is probably when I (finally!!) pay for my Jim Brickman ticket by myself and treat myself to a ‘night out.’ (Perhaps other married couples weren’t able to afford to ‘splurge’ on getting the seat close to the stage, cuz it was $52!! :)There’s a great wood-fire pizza place I wanna try out that night too. I gotta get cracking pretty soon, and buy my ticket. 😉

  37. Dawn
    October 12, 2013

    Being single is awesome when you friends think the guy your dating is prrfect because he opens doors and treats them like ladies. More than their own husbands. When they ask me why I get to have perfection my answer is cuz I didnt get married.

  38. Rebecca
    October 19, 2013

    After being single for only a month, I met this guy who made me feel like a million bucks! Only to have him turn around and go back to his ex. Mind you this was yesterday! This is my first time really trying to be single and it is really making me see that there is so much more to me, than a man! Because I am now single, I have the opportunity to do things I WANT TO DO! A girl friend and I are going to see the opera next month and I cant wait!

  39. Ngoni
    October 19, 2013

    Just one day….wow. Every day for me is a new experience. I will talk about the time I drove by myself to a retreat 6 hours away with just my radio and cd’s. Before reaching my destination, I encountered a storm that left me practically paralyzed (I was doing 20 mph on the freeway). When I finally passed through the storm and turned on the radio station, the song I’ll Praise You Through This Storm by Jeremy Camp came on. I stayed in a log cabin that had a bunk bed and no electricity or running water. It was great! I plugged the holes in the cabin with kleenex and listened as the night bugs sang me to sleep. In the morning, I sat by a pond and fed the duck that kept coming to me asking me for my breakfast. (Didn’t know ducks liked sweets!) During the day, I sat by a brook and relaxed as the water ran down. I saw a pretty butterfly and enjoyed the trees on the mountains. I was invited by a group of people to join them for lunch and we fellowshipped with one another. I will never forget that experience. It was a God-blessed event.

  40. October 28, 2013
  41. Charli
    January 8, 2014

    My “anytime, me time” really makes me appreciate the single life. Some days, it’s just me, my journal & Miles Davis… setting my mind free. There are days when words are not needed. My only focus is no focus. No worries. Just me & my thoughts.

  42. Trishie
    February 18, 2014

    I’m still in the “recovery” period of a breakup but I could say that the best thing is being more desperate for my first love, God. My focus went straight right to Him and my passion for Him doubled. I feel like God’s little girl again and it’s refreshing.
    This was your calling! Thank you Mandy.

  43. Alismo
    March 22, 2014

    I love being single when…
    * I wake up on a day off and decide my body needs a day of rest and pampering and I don’t do absolutely no effort at all to ‘look decent’ and just 100% enjoy the peace, cooking, reading, writing, …
    * I have the freedom and not a guilt feeling when I chat to other guys
    * I don’t need to check – in and say what I’m doing, or do things I actually don’t feel like doing just to please him
    * I can randomly change my plans to whatever suits me (I’m a really bad planner)

    So basically I love being single when I can do whatever I like with whom ever I like and I have the time to live my own life! And am not wasting my time, energy and money in a bad relationship, losing myself…

    <3 to all you Single Ladies who won't settle for anything less and are capable of loving themselves

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