The Single Woman’s Dash of Sass: Be Better Than Revenge
Quote of the Day:
“The best revenge is a vow to never be like the one who hurt you.” ~Unknown
The Single Woman Says:
The thing I’m learning in my life, time and time and time again, is that when someone hurts you, there is absolutely no need to turn vindictive and angry and start plotting your revenge. Nope, no need at all. Why? Because, as I have discovered, time is its’ own vindicator…and all things in life come full circle. That means if someone mercilessly and purposely caused you pain somewhere along the way, it’s only a matter of time before everything they did in the shadows of darkness comes to light. Time really, truly is the best equalizer, and the truth always comes out in the wash. Someone can try their best to hide what they’ve done or lie about what they’ve done or deny what they’ve done…but their true colors will eventually come blazing through. How do I know this? Because I’ve seen it too many times in my own life for it not to be true. For example, two years ago, someone I considered a good friend, even a best friend…hurt and betrayed me very deeply, and for seemingly no reason…then proceeded to go about life as though nothing had happened. This person was GREAT at feigning kindness and perfection and sincerity to everyone around her, so it really made me start to question myself. Did I bring her hurtful actions upon myself? Was I a bad friend? A bad person? Did I do something to deserve what happened to me? It has been one of those unanswered questions and run-on sentences in my life for more than two years now.
Until last night. Last night, I learned some things that absolutely confirmed, 100%, that the person who hurt me has a long track record of hurting people around her, betraying people around her, destroying people around her, almost as though she does it for sport. And though it pains me to think of all the people who have fallen victim to this person, it also set me free of any residual chains of responsibility I felt for the way things went down between us two years ago. In one fell swoop, I saw this person clearly, almost as though for the first time, and I realized that the blame was not with me, that I did NOT invite her betrayal, and that I could finally close that painful chapter and not look back. That’s one of the really great things about life: A liar can only outrun their lies for so long. Eventually, the sheep’s clothing will fall off and reveal the wolf underneath. I say all this today to encourage you to let go of any need for revenge or vindication that might be haunting you as a result of another’s betrayal. Your inner light and positivity are all the antidotes you need to counteract the lies and negativity of a toxic person. The best revenge is to live the best live you can live, being as YOU as you can be…knowing that someday, some way, the truth will set you free.