The Single Woman’s Dash of Sass: Keep Your Rose, I’ll Take My Dignity

Quote of the Day:

“There is not a man in the world who is worth your dignity. Do not confuse self-sacrifice with love.” ~J. Nozipo Maraire

The Single Woman Says:

I don’t watch The Bachelor and haven’t in years, however, last night I was reading so many colorful and funny updates about the season finale on my Twitter timeline, I flipped the TV over momentarily to see what all the fuss was about. What I found was two drop-dead gorgeous women fretting over being “chosen” by a rather ordinary and even mildly unattractive guy who I myself wouldn’t likely give a second glance if I passed him on the street. Apparently the contest to be the last woman standing was so frenzied, it caused the particularly beautiful Courtney to act like a raging wench to all the other women in the house throughout the season, to the point where the audience even booed when she came out on stage during last night’s “After the Final Rose” special. Now, being a bit of an entertainment news junkie, I’ve seen the pictures of Bachelor Ben openly cheating on Courtney, groping and kissing three different random women within the past month plastered all over US Weekly. Which means that Courtney made a fool of herself on national television; stooped to catty, juvenile behavior; and essentially cemented herself into reality show history as one of the most-hated women ever to grace our television screens – all over a guy who abandoned her, dumped her without actually telling her about it, and blatantly cheating on her in broad daylight – and oops! Then lying to her about it in front of a national audience of millions. Wow. Is THIS what the search for love has come to?!

Here’s the bottom line: If you have to manipulate for it, beg for it, or crawl over 17 other women to get to it…it isn’t love. It’s desperation. And there’s nothing cute about desperation. There is no relationship worth having that will ask you to sacrifice your dignity for it. Love, true love, should be about encouraging you to be your BEST self, not bringing out your worst. Never, ever fall for anyone you have to crawl for. If they don’t encourage you to fly – tell ‘em bye! I would rather be alone with dignity than in a relationship that required me to sacrifice my self respect. There is not a rose or a proposal on the planet worth accepting if you have to drop your dignity to do it.