The Single Woman’s Dash of Sass: Forgive & Remember
Quote of the Day:
“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” ~Gandhi
The Single Woman Says:
I got an email from a reader this morning who had been hurt very deeply by the man she loved. He cheated on her, and instead of being man enough to tell her, she had to find out via Facebook. Her question to me was this: “Can you truly move on without forgiving?” And my answer would have to be no.
Love can be crazy, and unexplainable, and sometimes unforgiving in its relentless pursuit to grab hold of your heart and squeeze until you’re sure you can’t take one moment more of the exquisite pain; but at the end of the day, when the turmoil and the madness and the passion fades, and you’re left facing only the reflection of yourself in the mirror, when you get down to the Heart of the Matter, it really is all about forgiveness. Forgiving others for being careless with your heart…forgiving yourself for the mistakes you’ve made…forgiving the past for its unrelenting need to drag you into a future without the person who once stood by your side. It’s all about forgiveness, and the ability to let go of those who have hurt you, or those who are no longer there. If they were meant to be there, they would be. And despite the blows to the pride and the blows to the heart and the very human need to shield yourself from even one second of pain…the pain reminds you that you’re real, and it reminds you that it’s time to move on, and it reminds you to let go of the something or the someone that no longer needs you. Their part in the story is through…the curtain has closed…the screen has faded to black…but when you look closer, you will see that underneath it all is a glimmer of hope, and love, and truth, and happiness…just waiting to be discovered.
Forgiving and forgetting are not the same things. Actually, forgiving isn’t forgetting. It’s REMEMBERING that you are far better than bitter…REMEMBERING that you are strong enough to rise above the other person’s weak actions…REMEMBERING that you have a future far greater than your past.
So don’t forgive and forget. Forgive and REMEMBER.