The Single Woman’s Dash of Sass: Memory Lane is Closed Today
Quote of the Day:
“Never look back unless you are planning to go that way.” ~Henry David Thoreau.
The Single Woman Says:
I made the oh-so-common mistake last night of innocently glancing at an ex’s Facebook page…you know…just to “see what he’s been up to.” We all do it…and if you say you don’t, you might wanna look up the definition of “denial” on Dictionary.com. I guess I thought I was prepared to take a trip down Memory Lane…but the problem with Memory Lane is, you tend to leave with more baggage than you came with. The truth is – I wasn’t AT ALL prepared to see his handsome, smiling face tagged in a photo alongside a Playboy Bunny-esque blonde, fake tan and weave included. I could pretend to be bulletproof and act like it didn’t bother me, but in all honesty, it crushed me. Looking back at anything that we have moved on from or that has moved on from us tends to do that. It’s the same reason you don’t plug yesterday’s route into your GPS to get to today’s destination. Looking back will NEVER get you where you want or need to go. I’m not beating myself up for breaking the cardinal “No scoping out an ex’s Facebook page” rule, because the way I see it, maybe I NEEDED to see evidence of him moving on. Maybe that’s the Universe’s way of giving me that final nudge that I needed to move on, once and for all. But I won’t make the same mistake again. If you’re constantly craning your neck to see what’s behind you, you’re going to hurt not just your neck, but your heart. And you’re going to miss out on a whole lot of good stuff staring you right in the face. So today: Don’t let what WAS blind you to what IS and what CAN STILL BE. Next time you pass by Memory Lane, don’t even tap the brakes. Put your foot on the gas and speed outta your past. Why? Because you’ll never have to do a U-turn to get anywhere you’re meant to go.